She starts her video by saying, "Are you still expecting yourself to 'O' while you're in this position? It's not going to really help you that much in terms of clit action."
Then she explains in the video, "Try to get some leverage with your feet and your legs and pop a pillow under your bum. Take your legs, place them down, have your pillow here (under your butt), and then as they're here (on top of you), try to start rocking back and forth so that your clit is being engaged."
And it was clear in the comments that Nell's advice has been tested and approved.
![One person said this position is where I O the most [crying, laughing emoji]](https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2021-11/24/4/asset/2af602779e63/sub-buzz-3399-1637726906-9.jpg?crop=3000:545;0,0)
People love it!
They get wildly great orgasms doing it!
To learn more, BuzzFeed spoke to Nell, who said that the biggest mistake people with vaginas make when having sex on their back is that they allow their male partner to place them in a position where their legs are bent in, squeezed up to the chest, or when their legs are positioned on top of their partners' shoulders with their hips and butt elevated.
Next, you'll want to place the soles of your feet on the bed or ground (wherever you're lying) and make sure your knees are bent. "As your partner is in between your legs and inside of you, start to make a slight rocking motion of your pelvis. Either front to back or side to side, it just depends on what your body feels most pleasure in. Pull your partner closer if your clit isn’t touching them, and then — together — work to create a rhythmic pattern so you both can enjoy. Remember that you're not supposed to just lay there, you need to be moving your own body as well," she explained.
Nell has also shared helpful information for people to identify what an orgasm is and what different kinds can feel like. "If you feel like you've reached a build-up but then just feel a tiny tingle or a small amount of release then it's likely you're having a small tension orgasm. This means that there wasn't a deep build-up which usually leads to better orgasms. I have an explanation of what an orgasm feels like on my Instagram which has been helpful for people in identifying that they are in fact experiencing an orgasm, just a very small tension one."
Lastly, Nell wants people to realize that many factors can cause women to not feel happy with their sex lives. "Power dynamics, shame, stigma, and body insecurities are just some examples of things that can hinder our right to pleasure and so much more. I work with it all and nothing is weird about this. We have grown up in a world where we are taught how to experience pleasure by many people who don't even know what it feels like. So, it's time to reclaim our right to have orgasms, to make noise or be silent, to reach down and touch our own clits instead of our partners, take the extra-long time we need, and to go for another round because we can."
