A woman named Raina Brands recently shared her frustrations on Twitter because her daycare constantly calls her instead of her husband.
This is after she specifically asked them numerous times to call her husband.
In fact, her husband has always been the one who has shown up at their kid’s daycare — not her.
And it's just another bullet point on the long list of ways society STILL pushes gender stereotypes on parents.
Other parents started flooding the comments to share the awful experiences they've had with the exact same thing.
Even when their kids are TELLING the school to call their dad, they still call their mom.
And it's beyond exhausting.
They also started sharing other ways in which gender inequality presents itself today.
And, not surprisingly, a lot of the situations include money.
Some people's tax experts can't even fathom listing women first in joint filings.
It's in even the most ridiculous scenarios.
Not to mention, men tend to immediately get what they want, while women often have to jump through hoops.
We are just so far behind when it comes to gender equality in everyday life and in parenting roles.
BuzzFeed spoke to Brands, who has a PhD in management and is a professor at the UCL School of Management, where she directs an open-enrollment course on leading inclusively.
"I research gender inequality in organizations, as well as teach and consult on this topic. We focus a lot on the major inequalities women face in their careers — the gender pay gap, the gender leadership gap, overt sexism, etc. But every day, women experience smaller inequalities as well, and these smaller inequalities add up over time. My daycare example is one of them. One phone call isn’t a big deal. But if every phone call goes to me, it means I am regularly being pulled away from my work to answer a query, arrange alternative care, pick him up, etc. The cumulative effect is an additional mental load and a time cost, not to mention ... the potential to make me look unreliable and not seriously committed to my career. If they never call my partner, not only are we not sharing those costs, but it also means he gets sidelined as a parent," she said.
Brands wasn't surprised at all that a lot of women had similar (or far worse) experiences. "Gender roles are widely shared and surprisingly resilient. Even though we are seeing significant changes in how families share paid work and unpaid care, most people still assume women are the primary caregiver and act accordingly," she said.
"Gender inequality is self-reinforcing. What I mean by this is that women are expected to be the primary caregivers, so childcare workers (and teachers, doctors, etc.) treat them as the primary point of contact, which means that women end up doing more of the childcare than their partners, which reinforces the idea that women are the primary caregivers."