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    Moms Are Explaining How Being A "Boy Mom" Is Different From Just Being A "Mom," And People Have Thoughts

    "If I go, 'My girl does that too!' they're like, 'It's different for boys.'"

    I recently came across a Reddit post where u/Ethrynn asked this: "What is up with the whole #BoyMom saying? I feel like it implies some kind of line-in-the-sand attitude that separates mothers who have just boys from the rest of motherhood. I find it kind of a strange way of thinking, but I take no offense to it. I have a little girl, and I can't imagine something that I would want to hashtag #GirlMom because that seems strange to me as well. Aren't we all in this together? I would love to hear from some fellow parents on what you think about the #BoyMom saying..."

    Here's what the parents of Reddit had to say...

    "I truly believe that it's a trendy way for moms of kids who are all the same gender to make themselves appear special and gloss over any disappointment at not having a boy and a girl. I think #BoyMom may be more prevalent because it’s assumed (either correctly or incorrectly) that women want at least one daughter. That being said, as a mom of two boys, I think it’s an irritating trend."

    "I've used the #BoyMom hashtag before. It's not meant in a superior way to anyone else. I just LOVE my boys. I was raised by a single dad and wore boy clothes until age 13. I resonate more with boys and truly hated anything girly until my stepmom forced me to conform and bought me 'girl clothes.' I was over the moon each time I found out I was having a boy."

    "'#BoyMom' is like saying, 'I spend my day listening to poop jokes, playing in the mud, crashing cars, and talking about superheroes.' It's kind of sexist in that 'girl moms' are seen as cleaner and more organized and have it 'easier.' I have two boys myself, but there is no real difference between the two genders — it's just a way to put us against each other. And it's wrong because girl moms don't have it easier."

    "Honestly? I think it’s because women grew up having certain misconceptions about men, and now they get to raise one of their own, so they are surprised at all the things boys do that they probably never knew about or expected."

    "I've never actually seen '#BoyMom,' but I do see a lot of '#GirlDad.' So my guess is it's in the same vein as whatever prompted that. I've got a boy, and I can't say I see any differences between me and any of my friends who have one kid, multiple kids, all girls, all boys, or a mix of both. It seems to me that it's just a weird validation thing."

    "They are both equally special. It's just a way moms express their joy about having that special bond. I've seen #BoyMom and #GirlMom stuff online."

    And when it comes to the differences between having a boy and a girl? All parents seem to agree that there aren't many...

    "I have a boy and a girl. My boy is cuddlier and more clingy, and my girl is more independent and self-assured, but that's probably more just their personalities. I don't think there is any real difference in the parenting experience."

    I think it's safe to say that being a mom to any kid — however they identify — is special! What are your thoughts on the #BoyMom and #GirlMom hashtags? Tell us in the comments!