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5 Ways To Give Emotional Neglect The Middle Finger

Before you read this article, I want you to read this list, and keep track of everything you believe applies to yourself. Feeling of emptiness, counter dependence, unrealistic self appraisal, no compassion for self, has guilt and shame, self blame, the fatal flaw (if people know me will they still like me?), difficulty nurturing yourself and others, poor self discipline, and poor awareness and understanding of emotions. If you identify yourself with any of these categories, you most likely were neglected by your parent(s) as a child. Maybe you are still a teen and are currently being neglected. Whatever the case may be, this article is for you. Just to add I would highly recommend the book, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, by Jonice Webb for further help on your situation. For now, here are 5 useful tips to start your pathway to happiness! :)

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1. Express your feelings in an assertive and compassionate way

Being assertive with your feelings will allow you to express them in a way that other people can fully take them in.

2. Put yourself first

Put yourself and your needs first, you need to make sure you are eating properly and healthily. Exercise is important because it releases endorphins. And lastly you need rest and relaxation. Learn to say no to others and yes to yourself.

3. Improve your self discipline

With self discipline, you have to wire your brain to know limits. Every day, you need to make yourself do things that you don't want to do, and stop yourself from doing things that you want to do, but shouldn't.

4. Be your own self-soother

An important way to self-soothe is to self talk, which is you talking to yourself through your uncomfortable feelings. Other things to try; taking a bubble bath, meditate, clean, exercise, listen to music, etc..,

5. Have self compassion

Don't let your critical voice say things to you that you wouldn't say to others. Lastly be human, don't be afraid to make mistakes, and when you do, don't let them affect you harshly.

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