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16 Facts About Dating That Will Change The Way You Think About Love

Apparently, love at first sight doesn't happen just on the big screen.

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This is Helen Fisher, the chief science adviser for Match.com and an anthropologist who specializes in ~love~.

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Every year, Helen Fisher, Ph.D., conducts a comprehensive study of singles’ attitudes toward dating and sex that surveys over 5,000 Americans. The people surveyed are NOT Match.com members, but are representative of the U.S. population at large. “We queried a representative sample of blacks, whites, Asians and Latinos, young and older, and gays, lesbians and straights from every part of the country and every walk of life,” she told BuzzFeed Science.

The data reveal a number of myths about dating, love, and sex. Here are some common myths about love that could use some debunking:

1. Myth: If you initially don’t find someone attractive, you will never fall in love with them.

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Reality: 43% of singles have fallen in love with someone they did not initially find attractive.

4. Myth: Romantic love is always triggered by physical attraction first.

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Reality: 54% of singles say they fell in love with someone they didn't initially find attractive after a great conversation, or when they found they had a lot of common interests.

5. Myth: Love at first sight only exists in the movies.

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Reality: 34% of singles (41% of men, 29% of women) have experienced love at first sight, while 53% of singles believe in it (59% of men, 49% of women).

6. Myth: Intense, passionate, romantic love lasts no more than a few months.

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Reality: 28% of singles surveyed were intensely in love with their last partner for two to five years, 9% of singles were intensely in love with their last partner for six to ten years, and 18% of singles were intensely in love with their last partner for more than 10 years.

7. Myth: To singles, getting married shows that you really love someone.

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Reality: 53% of singles don't want to get married because they believe that you don't need marriage to prove you love someone.

8. Myth: Single men want more nights out with friends than women do.

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Reality: Single men are less likely to consider regular nights out with the guys/girls a "must-have" or "very important" (only 55% of men consider it important while 64% of women find it important).

10. Myth: Men are turned off by a successful woman.

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Reality: 87% of single men would date a woman who makes considerably more money, and 44% of single men think it's important to date someone who has a successful career.

14. Myth: Men don’t want to date smarter women.

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Reality: 87% of single men would date a woman who is more intellectual than themselves, and 87% would date a woman who is considerably more educated.

16. Myth: Singles without children avoid dating single parents with children.

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Reality: 60% of singles (64% of men, 57% of women) are willing to date a single parent who is living with children.

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Contact Kirsten King at kirsten.king@buzzfeed.com.

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