Taylor Swift: "You Have To Make Sure That No One Can Call You A Crazy Bitch"
She looks A-mazing and speaks on point in the latest ASOS magazine. Here are the highlights.
Taylor Swift appears on the front cover of the January issue of ASOS magazine and, quite frankly, looks amazing. But her quotes on life are somewhat even more poignant.
The singer sat down to discuss everything from fashion choices to the importance of girl friends, heartbreak, work ethic and love.
Here are the highlights.
Work isn't about just showing up, it's about so much more than that. It's up to you to take risks – you have to decide that you want to get better and you want to learn. When you reach a certain level of success, which you inevitably will in your life if you work hard, people become OK with anything you create. Only you will be the one who pushes you and decides what the next level will be.
There is a line in "Clean", the last song on "1989" – 'When I was drowning, that's when I could finally breathe.' It talks about the loss of a relationship, but it could be about addiction, depression or the loss of someone. There's this quote in [the book] The Fault In Our Stars, 'Pain demands to be felt.' No matter how many times society tells you to put on a smiling face, pain is going to be felt one way or another, today or a year from now. I've seen people go through incredible difficulties and the ones who faced pain head-on made it out quicker than the ones who pretended they were OK.
The most important thing to preserve when you are your own boss, is your imagination. When you're dealing with so much business, scheduling and meetings, it's important to go off on whims and have your imagination stay intact so you can come up with the creative ideas that will fuel the business. I don't think any business would exist without creativity. It can't all be about power, fame and running some kind of empire. It has to all come from the fact that you like creating something.
The easiest, best, most effective way to make someone listen to you is to speak in an even tone. A lot of people think if they're shouting the loudest, they'll be heard, but most people lose respect for you when you lose your cool. You have to maintain everyone's respect, especially as a woman in a position of power. It's terrible to be at that kind of disadvantage, where if you yell, people will talk about you behind your back much more than if you were a man. Because of those social injustices we face as women, you have to make sure that no one can call you a crazy bitch.
I think that as much as you should be creative and experiment, there are certain things I know are fads and so I try to steer clear of most of the obvious ones. I play the tape of my life forward and don't wear the things that my kids or grandkids will make fun of me for wearing – [adopts sarcastic voice] 'Wow, cool, mom, cool cowboy boots that you were wearing constantly in 2006!'
When I'm getting dressed, it's always based on what my friends will think. They are my number one priority and the opinions of girls are more important to me at this point in my life. But depending on the city I'm in and depending on the time of day and what mood I'm in, my choices are ever changing. That's what keeps fashion exciting. You're always coming from a different place of inspiration.
For me, it's important to be comfortable in what I'm wearing. Being comfortable means that no one's going to be able to pull a fast one and take a picture of me that they'll deem to be embarrassing. I don't want to wear something so short that I'm scared there will be a wardrobe malfunction, or have a picture of me falling out of my shorts or skirt.
Fixing your heartbreak by getting into another relationship is not the way to live your life – you need to live it on your terms for a while. Honestly, being in my twenties and only focusing on what I want, moving to New York because I wanted to, cutting my hair short because I wanted to, making all these decisions based on the direction I wanted to go has been the most liberating thing I've done in my life. You can have love all around you without being in love, and find romance in your everyday life without being in a romantic relationship. That can be just as fulfilling.
Ina is the author of the Barefoot Contessa books and her recipe for mustard-roasted fish with capers is uh-mazing. I also make a really good Indian roasted cauliflower for my vegetarian friends, which they request when they come over. I roast the cauliflower in olive oil and add a yoghurt sauce with spices and pine nuts.
Loyalty is so important and it isn't easy because it ruffles feathers. You will not be universally liked if you are loyal to your friends because it means you will always pick their side. If your friend has a problem with someone, or someone is terrible to them, even if that person is nice to you, you're gonna give them a look. You're not going to go and take pictures with someone who's just been mean to your friend so they can post them on Instagram.
My friends are the kind of people who have their own lives and their own busy schedules, and that's why we get along so well. A lot of "celebrities" surround themselves with chic cling-ons who don't have much of a job or a passion. They follow around their celebrity BFF and provide constant affirmation for them. I'm really not interested in that kind of deal.
A Christmas at my house is as cosy as possible. Last Christmas, my parents and my brother and I went to the beach in New England, and it was freezing cold and snowy, and I got the whole family these red plaid Christmas onesies with Santa hats. Romping around in these crazy onesies was the most childlike, throwback, nostalgia-filled Christmas.
The first step to receiving negativity is to decide whether or not it is the opinion of somebody who you care about. If it's somebody who I respect, then I really do take it into account because "haters gonna hate" only applies to people who are simply criticising you because their life sucks. Some people take other people down or spread rumours about them because they're afraid of them in some way. However, I've gotten criticism from journalists who I respect that I legitimately applied to my career and my songwriting, and it's made me better.
I have so much foundation and make-up on all the time for work that it can feel like your face is painted, so when I'm not working, I like to let my skin breathe as much as possible. I wear moisturiser at night and in the morning I put it on before I put on foundation, or I use tinted moisturiser rather than foundation.
There's this little feeling that you get called intuition. Most of the time you ignore it, but becoming more attuned to what your gut is telling you helps you to make the best decisions. As a songwriter, it's really important for me to listen to random emotions that I feel and to figure out what they are and write about them. But even if you're not a songwriter, it's important to really think about how your body is responding to a certain situation. Sometimes your body will tell you a situation isn't right even before your mind knows it.
As much as I would really like to have saved myself heartache, embarrassment or gossip, I also know that my biggest mistakes have turned into my best lessons and sometimes my greatest career triumphs. The songs I've written about my moments of humiliation, embarrassment or devastation have gotten me the greatest sense of clarity. If my life had been turbulence free, no bumps in the road at all, maybe my music would be more beige, maybe the stadiums wouldn't be so full and the mantle would be a little more empty. I can't stand having regrets, but you're supposed to have them. Anybody who tells you they went through life without regret or error, isn't telling you the truth and they shouldn't be trusted.