Taylor Swift Is Your Free Psychologist

Some say she's insane. Insanely knowledgeable about L-O-V-E that is. Here to fix your broken heart is Taylor Swift, your Free Psychologist.

So after my recent announcement at the iHeart Radio awards about taking time off of music career. I have decided to use my time in another area of my expertise: behavioral health.

I could have probably gone to visit a psychologist to help me with my life, but instead I wrote songs. And no surprise to you all, I have written a good deal of songs about

L-O-V-E.

And yall NOTHING is worse than a broken heart. (Thanks to guys like Joe Jonas and John Mayer!) We’ve all been there, or will be one day. But have no fear… Dr. Taylor Swift is here. Plus, guess what I am FREE! Forget expensive psychology visits (thanks poorly crafted healthcare plans!) I have been told once or twice I am the love doctor. The modern day Sigmund Freud, heartbreak professional M.D., and today I am specializing in a list that will help you cope with your broken heart. Each song in this list deals with a certain feeling you may be experiencing post break up. So let the healing begin!

When You Are Desperate For Answers…

Regardless of how the breakup happens you want the answer to WHY it happened. If that is you, look no further down this list. Recent broken hearts needing to the express the WHY factor can be prescribed to listening to my second number one hit, "Should've said No".

In my case, the breakup was caused because my boyfriend cheated on me. Obvious answer to why we broke up, right? I sung this tune straight from a moral broken heart wanting to know WHY he cheated. No matter how a relationships ends, broken hearts all around can relate to how nothing is the same. This upbeat country tune of mine is build up to the last verse so listeners can at last see ask the Why factor. sings, "I can't resist / Before you go, tell me this: / Was it worth it? / Was she worth this?"

Even at an early age in our love doctoring career, sixteen year old me experienced this stage of heartache: I thought about the good parts, was clearly upset about what has happened (I mean I don't belt out the chorus for nothing), and finally asked and wanted to know WHY we broke up, which ultimately leaves the listens to wondering also why.

When you are Bargaining about the Heartache…

So it’s been a little bit of time since your heart was broken? And hasn’t it left you to dwell on the hope your relationship’s history? Contemplating how your heart became broken? But knowing deep down nothing can be the same? Sounds like you are bargaining about this heartache, and me, Dr. Swift, has the perfect bargaining stage song for you.

In the tune “Forever and Always”, I first reflect on the memories of our relationship. For me, I thought of the moment when meet and it was like a fairytale. Are you thinking about maybe a familiar memory? If so, this shows you have been holding on to the past.

Now as you are also thinking about when my ex told you that you would be together “Forever and Always” (cough, cough Joe Jonas), but then you ask think about asking him/her “Were you just kidding?” If this is you, going back and forth about what went down, you are experiencing the “contemplating” stage of bargaining.

Hear me out as I explain the last stage of what bargaining about a breakup is like. Moving into the chorus, “And I stare at the phone / He still hasn’t called” these lyrics display how I am is currently still waiting and clinging to the possibility of getting back together. Did this helps lead ya’ll broken hearts travel through the stages of bargaining? If so, you now realize, it wasn’t actually forever and always.

When you feel nothing but sadness…

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The break up with your lover has you crying? Trust us, it’s okay. There’s no better way than letting out all the tears in the world in my most sad, sappy song, “Teardrops On My Guitar”. Is the guy/girl you care deeply makes you say, he/she "everything that I have to live without” ?

What relatable lyrics. Being without the person you love, makes you purely miserable.

But the single line alone that I hope connects listeners far and wide is the well-known chorus line; “He’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar.” Why it connects? Well, although we may not have guitar to cry on during heartache, we all have something in which we lay our emotions out on, it could be a pillow or a gallon of ice cream.

Before the chorus begins, the last line of the second verse “I wonder if he knows he's all I think about at night” shows how sad feelings of heartache drives us to affecting our physical well being. But look no further because “Teardrops on my guitar” will let you sad hearts let it out, and ya’ll definitely have your own teardrops of you own falling down your cheek. Because trust me, I do.

When you are angry….

You feel like you want to burn the heartbreaker’s house? Or maybe just get a little sweet revenge? Boy, does I have a tune to match your angry heart! “Picture to Burn” is a fierce feminist response to a the person who you dated, but now it’s clearly over. Ya’ll feel like “there’s no time for tears” but rather enjoy “sitting here planning my revenge” ?

It’s totally natural to feel bitterness toward the one that broke your heart. Desiring to get revenge is a coping mechanism for your heartbreak versus if you sitting sad like in “Teardrops on my guitar”. In the playful chorus, I sing, “So watch me strike a match / On all my wasted time/ As far as I’m concerned you’re / just another picture to burn,” don’t you want to join in on the fun of feeling angry?!!? Because let’s be real, it’s fun to burn things, and as the love doctor I assure burning memories is good for your broken angry heart.

When you have finally accepted the heartache…

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You. Have. Made. It. Acceptance. Now I order the most perfect, bittersweet tune for you. Maybe some time for some positive reflection of the ended relationship? In the tune “Tim McGraw,” I begin with an telling the story about “boy in a Chevy truck/that had a tendency of gettin’ stuck/on back roads at night/and I was right there beside him all summer long”. The little antidote takes back the broken heart to thinking about the good times of the relationship; because part of accepting the heartbreak is treasuring the memories.

And, although, their relationship has ended, all the heartbroken and myself have accepted the break up because of the last two lines of the chorus, “When you think of Tim McGraw / I hope you think of me.” These heartfelt lyrics mean that I want the ex lover to not only to also treasure the memories like the little things they shared such as a simple Tim McGraw song, but also hope they think of each other. Does this tune not have you feeling the feels? Because, I know I do, and that is why it connects so well to you. Overall, as the M.D. I want listeners to feel empowered while listening to the tune, but if you listeners shed a bittersweet tear, it’s okay. I promise this is the first step to moving on.

Whether you were able to go through the stages of a heartache in a week or may be listening to a particular song for a long while, I hope this list has helped you cope with your heartache. And above all, know one day your heart will be made whole and joyous again. I have gone through more than 10 more breakups, and now have been with one who makes me happy for the past year. And trust me, if I can do, so can you :)