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Tell Us A "Wholesome" Gesture Most People Believe Is Romantic, But Is Actually Toxic

Don't even get me started on toxic positivity.

Whether you see them in real life, watch them in movies, or hear them in songs, there are a lot of "wholesome" gestures out there you've probably been taught are cute and romantic, but are actually pretty toxic.


This made me want to ask you, dear reader: What "wholesome" thing do most people believe is romantic, but is actually toxic?

Maybe proposing to your partner in front of a suuuuuper large crowd actually puts them in a compromising position, and they feel immense pressure to give an answer right away.

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Public proposals are the worst.

Or perhaps you think showering your girlfriend with gifts is sweet, but it can actually be seen as a sign of insecurity by "marking your territory" and letting others know "you're taken."


Or maybe giving your partner positive compliments on a daily basis is actually overwhelming, and instead of showering them with toxic positivity, they'd rather deal with the reality of whatever's going on.


Whatever it is, we want to know! Tell us a "romantic" gesture most people think is wholesome, but is actually toxic, in the comments below.

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