We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the best relationship advice they've ever heard. Here are the best responses.
Note: responses have been edited for length and clarity.
1. Don’t ask yourself if you are good enough for them. Ask yourself if they are good enough for you.
2. Don't chase anyone.
The right person won’t need to be chased.
3. Don't try to change anyone.
If you go into the relationship thinking they need fixing, you don't actually want to be with them, you just want to be with an idea of what you think they could be.
4. If someone is into you, they'll make sure you know it.
There is no grey area. There is no ambiguity or question. They will show it. They will put in the effort. And if they don't, then they're not the one and it’s time to move on.
5. You can't control what someone else does; you can only control how you react to it.
My dad told me this and it changed my life.
6. Never treat someone like a priority when they treat you like an option.
7. Don't trust someone who says all their exes are crazy.
Because that person is the common denominator.
8. Stop looking for your "other half." You’re not a half person; you’re a whole and completely unique person.
Find someone who embraces the whole of you and build a life together. They’re a character in your story, not the whole thing.
9. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.
That doesn’t mean you have to have it all together! It just means you have to have your priorities straight and be happy. Once you’re happy with yourself, you’ll attract the right person into your life.
10. Stop looking for Sunday-afternoon people in Saturday-night places.
One of my professors once told our class this. A real eye-opener.
11. You should never have to teach baseline human decency to an adult.
So you should never have to "teach" a significant other that they shouldn't be late, or shouldn't yell at you, or shouldn't criticize you, or shouldn't be mean to your friends. When you start thinking about things like that as baseline expectations, it's easier to not make excuses for those behaviors and not tolerate them.
12. "When you're wearing rose-colored glasses, all of the red flags just look like flags."
13. Be with someone who can be happy WITHOUT you.
It’s not your responsibility to be their source of happiness. You should add happiness to each other's lives, not depend on each other for your sole source of joy.
14. You and your significant other should be each other's biggest cheerleaders.
If your partner isn’t excited about you realizing your dreams, then they’re holding you back. Find someone who will cheer you on to the very last step of the very last mile. And be their biggest cheerleader, too. Challenge each other to be the best versions of yourselves.
15. Being in a relationship isn’t 50-50 — it’s 100-100.
You both have to be all in to make it work.
16. Whenever you're in a fight with your partner, remember: It's not you versus them, it's the two of you versus the problem.
17. When facing a relationship conflict, consider the Rule Of 10.
Is this going to matter in 10 minutes? 10 days? 10 months? 10 years? If it’s going to matter 10 years from now, by all means, have the fight. If not, is it really worth it? My husband and have been married for 14 years and we’ve had fewer than five fights because of this rule.
18. Sometimes, loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work.
It can be easy to fall in love, but making a relationship work requires dedication, trust, loyalty, respect, and a lot more. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be together.
19. You shouldn't fully hate someone for figuring out what they need to do to be happy, even if that means you lose them.
I read this on Tumblr and it's helped me a lot to get over the anger that comes with a breakup.