back to top

As A Bridesmaid, Would You Dye Your Hair For Your Friend's Wedding?

Sometimes brides have very particular requests for their bridesmaids.

Being a bridesmaid is a tradition filled with friendship, good times, and (sometimes) ugly dresses.

Universal Studios

But in the case of some brides, the duties of bridesmaid includes dyeing your hair whatever color she requires.

Universal Pictures

A recent post on Reddit (which has since been removed by the original poster) detailed how one bridesmaid with naturally red hair was asked by her bride friend to dye her hair brown so that her red hair didn't "clash" or appear "too attention-grabbing."

The bride offered to pay for the cost of the hair change.
tumblr.com

The bride offered to pay for the cost of the hair change.

According to the bride in question, "brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids' appearances," and that extends to hair color.

Alexandr Dubovitskiy / Getty Images
Advertisement

Redditors were pretty quick to come to the bridesmaid's defense.

This isn't the only bridesmaid who's recently gone through such a dilemma. A woman recently wrote into Slate's Dear Prudence column because her sister asked her to dye her blue hair to brown for her wedding.

Advertisement

The woman opted to wear a wig instead, and her sister wasn't happy.

For the record, Dear Prudence's author Mallory Ortberg sided with the bridesmaid. "You did a very nice thing by changing your appearance to suit her mood in the first place," she wrote. "The fact that she got married does not entitle her to dictate the color of your hair."
Thinkstock

For the record, Dear Prudence's author Mallory Ortberg sided with the bridesmaid.

"You did a very nice thing by changing your appearance to suit her mood in the first place," she wrote. "The fact that she got married does not entitle her to dictate the color of your hair."

This actually comes up more often than you'd think!

Edwardderule / Getty Images
Advertisement

Hmmmm.

  1. But what do you think? Would you change your hair color if your friend asked you to for her wedding?

    Correct
    Incorrect
    Sure, it's her special day or whatever.
    Correct
    Incorrect
    Hell no, that is crazy talk.
    Correct
    Incorrect
    I would consider it, depending on how close we were.
    Correct
    Incorrect
    I might wear a wig, but there's no way I'm actually coloring my hair.
    Correct
    Incorrect
    I have some other thoughts I'll share in the comments that can't be contained in this poll.
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
But what do you think? Would you change your hair color if your friend asked you to for her wedding?
  1.  
    vote votes
    Sure, it's her special day or whatever.
  2.  
    vote votes
    Hell no, that is crazy talk.
  3.  
    vote votes
    I would consider it, depending on how close we were.
  4.  
    vote votes
    I might wear a wig, but there's no way I'm actually coloring my hair.
  5.  
    vote votes
    I have some other thoughts I'll share in the comments that can't be contained in this poll.

H/T Glamour

Connect with As/Is