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    Updated on Aug 3, 2019. Posted on Jul 27, 2015

    25 Dating Tips Every Introvert Needs To Know

    Less awkward, more awesome.

    We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community what their best introverted dating tip is. Here are some of the most helpful responses:

    1. Suggest meeting up at a restaurant you know you like.

    2. Get your extroverted friends to play wingman.

    3. Treat strangers like old friends.

    4. Be upfront about your introversion.

    5. Be your own coach.

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    "I always talk to myself and think of every scenario that could happen and imagine what to do in that scenario. It helps surprisingly." —chloec455854143

    6. Focus on friendships first.

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    "Become friends with people. As an introvert, it's hard to meet new people, so try hanging out with people you already know. They will have other friends and you will eventually end up meeting people." —ameliag4a2dd527b

    7. Ask questions.

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    "Ask fun questions about their likes and interests. Best concert you ever saw? Books you've read twice or more? Where would you go if you could travel anywhere tomorrow morning?" —William Gallagher, Facebook

    8. And keep the conversation rolling by returning questions asked of you.

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    "Don't forget to return questions! I'm awful for this. Someone will ask about my family or work or something and I answer but forget to ask the same question." —courtneyz2

    9. Reframe your thoughts so it's not all about impressing them.

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    "When you're talking to someone you think you could be interested in, remember that you're looking to see if you are interested in them, not if they are interested in you. Once I thought of it that way, I was a lot less anxious and worried about being likable." —mrctheamazing

    10. Don't expect instant chemistry.

    11. Break the ice on a first date with a fun activity.

    12. Or go to the movies.

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    "Going to a movie is definitely an ideal date. You don't have to speak most of the time and it gives you something solid to talk about afterward. It's a win-win!" —laurenm47cbff421

    13. Or take a walk. Bonus points if it's with a dog.

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    "The best date for me, as an introvert, is going on a nice walk. It sounds lame and corny, but the walking leaves plenty of room for non-awkward silence and people watching makes for good conversation. It's even better if you have a dog to bring with you." —josephinea4b05eddf2

    14. Plan a date that puts you totally in your element.

    15. Try dating another introvert.

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    "For me, I've found it much easier to date other introverts! They understand that I'd almost always rather have a low-key date at home than a night out, and they don't try to force me out of my comfort zone when I'm not prepared for it." —hayleym4c8f346f7

    16. But don't count out an extrovert.

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    "I used to date only introverts because I thought they understood me better. Yes they did, but we introverts tend to overthink so much that it leads us into believing that the silence is more awkward than what it really is. I'm now with an extrovert and I've never been so happy." —luisad491ca7563

    17. Remember that the right person won't rush you.

    18. Find a common hobby.

    19. Don't feel the need to fill every awkward silence.

    20. Be super honest when you're overwhelmed. No one's a mind reader.

    21. When it comes to parties, have a system.

    22. You might have to compromise sometimes.

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    "Compromise. My partner of seven and a half years knows that when she and I go out, I'm going to need recharge time. And I know that there will be times that I will have to throw on a smile and socialize when I don't want to. It's all about give and take." —janetm43885b0d5

    23. Keep your head up.

    24. Find the person who's even better to hang out with than being alone.

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    "In all honesty, being an introvert gave me a secret dating weapon. If I spend time with someone I have feelings for and end up feeling completely socially exhausted, chances are that person and I aren't going to work out. My best relationships came with people who didn't empty my introvert energy — and I can usually figure out who drains me pretty quickly." —brooksb49e458fbd

    25. And don't forget: Everyone likes pizza and Netflix.

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