When you are ready to bring another dog into your life, you’ll see how much your pup taught you about love. I felt so much closer to my childhood dog when I brought my (now adult) puppy home. You’ll always miss him, but overtime that feeling becomes one of good memories and happiness instead of heartache.
Cook as many healthy meals at home as you can. Then when you do eat out, look at the dessert menu first. If you’re going to treat yourself, make sure you get to fully enjoy it!
The private grade school I attended had a incredibly strict dress code. All of the most over the top situations I personally saw involved the same administrator (who actually still works in the same position more than a decade later). With the exception of assembly day, we could wear all white leather sneakers. According to this woman, the tiny blue logo on the back of keds sneakers violated the rules. Students were sent to after school study hall for this. Remember these are kids under the age of 10/11 and I can recall multiple students crying in the office waiting for their parents to bring them “acceptable” footwear. The strangest experience though was my classmate being reprimanded because her socks did not completely cover her ankles. They were not even “low rise” or “no show” socks, they simply were too small and did not come up high enough. Why picking on children was enjoyable for this administrator will never make sense to me. I understand the need to draw the line somewhere, but it was beyond overkill.
If you want to know how to help, here are some ideas coming from a person with anxiety, panic disorder, and ptsd:
1. Listen. What they are saying may be completely irrational to you, but telling them they are wrong will only push them to spiral down further.
2. Be patient: It’s hard to understand another’s anxiety even if you have it yourself. DO NOT ask probing questions. Instead help them gain back control. When I was at my worst, my mum would bring me water and my medication and say “this is here if you decide you need it.” She was giving me direction without making me feel weaker. *This will not work for everyone and did not always work for me. It is just one example.*
3. Be respectful: Yes it can be incredibly frustrating to perceive that someone you know and care about is self-destructing. We are talking about a chemical imbalance here and I can promise you that we would not choose this for ourselves. If you are struggling to understand why or how anxiety (or something else) occurs or find yourself angry about it, talk to a knowledgable doctor. Do not discuss someone’s “situation” with other people. Yes we all need to vent but you will do more damage than you can imagine. You can directly and indirectly make it much harder for them to make any progress. For example, after a few girls told everyone I was “crazy”, (my heart went into a dangerous rhythm from an allergic reaction to medication and was put under watch in the hospital, thank you very much), students in my classes who I had never met would ask me what it was like to be in a “psych ward.” I’ve never been to one so I don’t know, but I would think that it could be a possible step in the right direction for those who need it. I seriously considered dropping out of school.
4. Ask them for help: when your sister is in a good place, take the opportunity to ask her how you can help. Tell her that you do not understand and need advice to make it better for both of you. She may have suggestions, or you could both go to therapy together to learn how to best respond to each other. Remember that asking for help is the first step to getting better, and that this applies to everything in life. Good Luck