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    18 Dating Lessons From Mr. Darcy

    My feelings will not be repressed.

    This is Mr. Darcy.

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    His first name is Fitzwilliam. Never use it.

    This is also Mr. Darcy. Ladies love Mr. Darcy.

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    And though he was created by the beautiful mind of Miss Jane Austen over two hundred years ago, he has some lessons that might be of assistance to the modern chap.

    1. First and foremost: you must learn to dance.

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    “To be fond of dancing was a certain step towards falling in love.”

    2. Don't be afraid of a little sassiness.

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    "Could there be finer symptoms? Is not general incivility the very essence of love?"

    3. Don't fetishize the bookish girl.

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    She's probably got bite.

    4. When trying to think up a clever first line on Tinder, bear in mind that even Mr. Darcy would have fumbled!

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    Go for something simple and honest.

    5. Recognize that a little weirdness is a prerequisite for love.

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    "Such squeamish youths as cannot bear to be connected with a little absurdity are not worth a regret."

    6. Don't be afraid of going long distances for the one you love.

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    "The distance is nothing when one has a motive."

    7. Banter and wit are very, very important.

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    "Now be sincere; did you admire me for my impertinence?"
    "For the liveliness of your mind, I did."

    8. Understand that when you're turned down, it's not an act of cruelty.


    "I have no pretensions whatever to that kind of elegance which consists in tormenting a respectable man."

    9. When in doubt, pause for tea.


    Patience is a virtue aided by Earl Grey.

    10. Your determination will pay off.

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    "If a woman is partial to a man, and does not endeavour to conceal it, he must find it out."

    11. Learn to embrace a little loss of control, in love.

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    "She attracted him more than he liked."

    12. It's important to stay humble.

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    "Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us."

    13. Love means seeing the best in each other.

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    "To be sure you know no actual good of me, but nobody thinks of that when they fall in love."

    14. Persistence is not necessarily a bad thing, just don't be presumptuous.

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    "My affections and wishes are unchanged, but one word from you will silence me on this subject for ever."

    15. And anticipate that when you meet the right person, you'll probably be at a loss for what to do.

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    "You showed me how insufficient were all my pretensions to please a woman worthy of being pleased."

    16. When the time is right, put it allllll out there.

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    Preferably in a rainstorm.

    17. It can be a bit difficult, but it's best to say exactly how you feel.


    "In vain I have struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed."

    18. At some point, you're just going to have to take the leap.

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