A few days ago, I saw a resurfaced thread about a situation involving a prenuptial agreement on the Am I The Asshole subreddit, and I knew I had it to share it with y'all.
Basically, there was a pair of sisters who were business partners, and one of them wanted the other to order a prenup to protect their shared assets, but the engaged sister refused to do so.
Here's the full situation as told by the woman, u/wewantprenup44:
"My sister and I are property investors who own six investment properties together. I know how the internet feels about evil landlords, so spare me that please that's not why I'm here. We started with one house to live in then bought lots of cheap houses and flipped them for rental income. We're doing well financially because of said houses."
"My sister is getting married. The wedding is later this year, pandemonium dependent. I'm helping her plan and we were going through a to-do list, seeing what's left to be done."
"She mentioned caterers, venue, invites, etc, and asked if she'd forgotten anything. I said yes — prenup and we both sang 'we want prenup yeahh' like the Kanye song then laughed. She moved on to the next item without actually addressing it. I leave it for then and we go our separate ways."
"I text her later in the evening, 'Hey, my friend used a really good lawyer to draw her prenup so lmk if you want me to ask for her deets.' She replies she thought I was joking, she's not asking her husband to sign a prenup. I reply I wasn't joking, and I must insist he signs one. She calls and says it's not my place to insist. I say it is when our assets are tied together."
"She asks me if I'm trying to say something about her future husband. I say I'm trying to be realistic and smart then it all goes to hell. She starts yelling at me about being rude, jinxing her marriage before it began yadayadayada. I say either she gets a prenup or we transfer all property to my name and I get one if I ever get married, then I hang up."
"I’ve been bombarded by family saying her future husband is a good guy who would 'never do that' if they separated. He sent me a text admonishing me for hurting my sister and calling him a gold digger — he thought I liked him. I'm not backing down on this. Am I the asshole for how I went about it or wanting one?"
Hmmm....much to think about. I can see where both sides are coming from with this one.
The people of Reddit also had different takes. One person who goes by u/GlaxenFlux argued that the woman was the asshole in this situation.
"If you want to be smart with your business, be smart with your business — a prenup for someone else's marriage isn't necessary," they said. "Talk to a business lawyer about getting paperwork written up that states that if she gets divorced, your portion of the profits doesn't get touched or however it needs to be worded to protect the business. Make sure you have the proper protections in place for your business instead of demanding your sister do something that's not your decision."
Another person who goes by u/bucetilde concurred.
"You're the asshole for how you went about it," they said.
"Suggesting was okay, but going 'I say either she gets a prenup or we transfer all property to my name' is just ridiculous. Get the paperwork sorted out so that your half is protected, but what she does with her half and her arrangement with her future husband is none of your business."
Someone else who goes by u/KaliCalamity disagreed with the commenters above and sided with the woman.
"Overall, not the asshole, though I think your delivery could have been handled better," they said.
"Anyone that enters into marriage with assets, especially assets shared with another person, absolutely should get a prenup. No one gets married thinking they'll get divorced, and you can never be sure how people will change over time."
And finally, someone with the username u/LimitlessMegan offered some advice to the woman.
"Here’s what you do," they began.
"You call your sister up, you apologize. You say something like, 'I’m sorry, you’re right — me approaching this topic like this makes it seem like I’m casting aspersions on your future husband which is not what I meant. I see now that you getting married has caused me to realize we should probably formalize our business arrangement. I want you, as my business partner, to always have your income protected, and likewise for me. I was thinking of a prenup as what was needed when really we just need to sign some paperwork for the partnership that protects each of us no matter the eventuality. Would you be open to seeing a business lawyer with me to see what they suggest?'”