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    Parents Are Sharing When Their Kids Hurt Their Feelings And I'm Actually Crying

    Kids are the harshest critics in the world.

    Kids are so honest and unfiltered. They can sometimes be downright savage.


    When Reddit user u/beardlesshipster asked the parents of Reddit what their kids do that hurts their feelings without them realizing, the responses ranged from the brutal to the absolutely heartbreaking...

    1. "My daughter hurts my feelings BAD in just one situation: I'll say, 'I love you!' and she'll reply with, 'No, Daddy, I DON'T love you.'"


    2. "Four-year-old: 'Daddy, I love you.' Me: 'Thanks, bug. I love you too.' Four-year-old: 'Daddy, I love Mommy more though.'"


    3. "When my daughter gets a night terror she will tell me, crying, that she wished I died instead of mommy... She hasn't done it for a couple of months now, but it hurts more than I can bear. I calm her down and get her back to sleep and usually go to my room and cry."



    4. "I have a daughter, 12. We've always been pretty close, and in most ways we still are. We've always done everything together...but, she's at the age now where friends, etc., are becoming more important."

    "I'll bring up something we can do, like watching a movie that I think she'll like. Five minutes in, she'll get a message from a friend, light up, and just disappear for the rest of the movie. Now, I get it. I'm sure I was like that too. I'm not gonna freak out about it or anything...but I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt my feelings a little now and then." —u/stinnett76

    5. "As a stay-at-home dad, when my kids say I don’t do anything all day. Not meanly, it just never occurs to them that I drive them everywhere, cook them each individual lunches and dinners, do their laundry, clean the house, etc., etc."


    6. "Fight, where they really try to hurt each other. I had no idea as a kid how bad it is for the parent. The first time it happened when they were very small, it felt like watching cannibalism, just horrifying. And to think I used to worry about the dog."


    7. "My teenage son came across some old wedding photos that his dad had put away for him at his office. When his stepmom discovered these photos, she became upset, so my son threw them away to avoid the drama. These photos were 24 years old. There are no duplicates, and my son doesn’t understand why I’m upset that he didn’t just bring them to me."



    8. "My almost 3-year-old twins often tell me I'm not invited to their birthday party."


    9. "Whenever I cook a big dinner with a new recipe of something I thought my kids would love, my son will always tell me it looks bad and he's not hungry anymore, and my daughter will follow with anything he says. Of course, 15 minutes after I eat alone and sad, they ask for chicken nuggets."


    10. "Both of my kids make a lot of comments about my body, and some of them can sting. Last week my 5-year-old said my arms were like bags of cookie dough."


    11. "My 5-year-old daughter said she wanted a new mommy because I don't have a pretty face. She didn't realize it would be hurtful I guess."



    12. "My 12-year-old son basically ignores me as much as he can. It's puberty and it's all normal, but a year ago I was still his favorite person, and now it's all about his friends, girls, and video games. And I'm the uncoolest person on the planet apparently."

    "I made him go for a walk with me and the dog the other day just to try to have some conversation, and he said, 'Why do you make me do things that make me unhappy?' To which I responded, 'Spending time with me makes you unhappy?' And he said, "Yes." I told him he could turn around and go back home then, and he did. I cried the whole way to the dog park." —u/frisbeemassage

    13. "As a stepfather, hearing the phrase 'you're not my father.'"


    14. "One time my kids played I Spy and said 'something yellow.' It was my teeth."


    15. "Yesterday, my 4-year-old motioned for me to come really close to his face and whispered, 'Dad, you are useless.'"



    16. "Every time they say that their dad's new wife cooks better food than me."


    17. "My 6-year-old makes levels in Mario Maker that make me die too many times before I can beat them. Petty? Maybe, but I use to be good at Mario before he came along."


    18. "My wife and I alternate between kids at bedtime. Whoever gets me is the 'loser' and cries every time. This has been happening every day for two years."



    19. "I’m divorced with split custody. My ex has a large extended family that lives nearby, and they are always together letting the little cousins all play together. My family is the exact opposite — live hours away and nobody young to have play dates with."

    "So weekly, my 5-year-old cries when it’s time to go to my house because it’s 'not as fun as Dad’s.' I am on a budget and can’t afford to take her out every week to the zoo or movies. Every single dollar is budgeted. It makes me cry often when I see how excited she is to go to his house because mine is boring. I just want her to know that I’m trying." —u/Mrs_Hannah

    20. "My adult kids say 'old' whenever I send them a meme I think is funny. It just makes me feel bad for some reason."


    21. "I am a longtime widower. Me and my son were left alone and used to be really close. After he moved to college, he used to call every day. I lived for that phone call. Gradually they started decreasing from once on two days to once a week. Now he has a girlfriend and rarely talks to me. I sometimes watch his Instagram and feel sad. I wish he would call more."


    Note: Responses have been lightly edited for length and clarity.

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