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20 Hardships Facing Feminine Gay Boys

You're like one of the girls.

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1. "Are you the woman in the relationship?"

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2. "You're like one of the girls."

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Except I'm not. Femininity is not exclusive to women. BAM!

3. Everyone thinks you're a fashion expert.

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4. People automatically assume that you're the bottom.

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5. Women want to recruit you as their best friend just so they can say they have a gay guy friend. They gotta meet their quota.

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6. "Hags" will try to collect you like Pokemon.

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7. And then show you off to other "hags."

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8. Fem boys are considered weak, even though they face fierce types of bigotry that "passing" gays don't.

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(Passing means those that aren't considered gay at first sight.)

9. The gay community at large views fem boys as a stereotype, as if their existence is detrimental to the community.

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I'm sorry that we exist...?

10. When people talk to you they suddenly get sassy, as if that's the only language you understand.

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11. If you're good at video games or sports people are all surprised and ish.

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12. People give you masculine/traditional clothing on gift-giving occasions, and you pretend to like it. Or you don't.

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13. Your gender expression is thought of as a choice, because trendiness is apparently worth being bullied and harassed.

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14. So the subsequent attacks you face are thought of as your fault.

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15. You're the lowest on the totem pole because mascs are all the rage. #MascForMasc

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Internalized self-hate in the gay community is chocked up to attraction because it's okay to not be attracted to a certain type of person. It's not like prejudice is described as judging someone before you meet them.

16. Basically mascs are seen as the superior breed, because the best thing about a gay guy is when you don't know that they're gay, amirite?

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17. Fem gays are considered the creators of the aptly named "gay agenda."

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18. Everyone thinks you're a drag queen on the low.

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19. People are always snapping in Z-formation at you.

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Why? Like why?

20. But mostly people are always after you.

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Whether they want you as their trophy friend, whether they want to attack or change you, or whether they want to blame you for stereotypes that are out of your control.

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