referring to her old work as laura jane’s is most respectful
the main thing i can think of are questions like â€œhave you had THE surgery?â€. quite a few things are problematic with such questions: there is no â€˜the surgeryâ€™ that results in having â€˜a sex change.â€™ there are many different types of surgeries that can change a personâ€™s genitalia or secondary sex characteristics. people who are trans might choose to undergo some and not others, or none at all! because there isnâ€™t one, singular step for a â€œsex change,â€ the word used is â€œtransition.â€ there are many steps for social transition - changing your hair and clothes, going by different pronouns and a different name, etc. - and for physical transition - different surgeries, different levels of hormones - that trans people choose many combinations of. basically, donâ€™t assume because someone has a particular identity, they want to take certain steps. the other reason why questions like â€œhave you had THE surgeryâ€ is problematic is because itâ€™s asking medical info about someoneâ€™s junk. any way of asking about a trans personâ€™s junk is offensive the same way that asking about a cis personâ€™s junk is offensive. itâ€™s a private thing. so unless there is an important reason why that info is relevant to you (ex/ youâ€™re their doctor, their significant other, etc.), itâ€™s none of your business. also, as mentioned above, the vast majority of trans people find the term â€œtransgenderedâ€ offensive and prefer the term â€œtransgender.â€ i hope that all was clear and that it was somewhat helpful!