When "Fifty Shades of Grey" debuted in theaters this week controversy reached a stratosphere level in the United States seeming to usher in the next civil war. The reaction of other countries were somewhat similar. Critics pontificated that the movie and the book depicted explicit scenes of rape and abuse. The BDSM community recoiled with displacement against the book due to peer pressure from critics that ran a muck throughout the media. So here was the important question to ask. Did "Fifty Shades of Grey" actually depict several scenes of rape and explicit abuse? While the relationship between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey may not have been a hallmark for the healthiest or most normal relationships it did not depict rape. After close inspection these claims can all be found concisely debunked. The most negative scene in the book detailed an event upon which Christian Grey intruded the house of Anastasia, the main female character in the book, and proceeded to "consensually" know her in the biblical sense. The scene transpired as follows:
Critics pontificated that the very same scene depicted abuse and psychological breakdown just after the event upon which Christian Grey proceeded to have sex with Anastasia Steele, but the reality is that when Christian said, "What do you want, Anastasia?" The lines belonging to Anastasia read this, "You...now, I cried." When Christian said, "I thought you were saying no, no discussion at all." Anastasia replied, "I don't know yet. I haven't made up my mind. Will you collar me?" There definitely came a point where the integrity of the scene was questionable, but keep the words "I nod" in mind before what transpired only a few minutes later.
These two were indeed having a bit of role-play. Anastasia's actions were far too inconsistent for this situation to have been rape. Again, before anything even happened Christian asked her "Do you trust me?" Anastasia stated, "I nod wideyed my heart bouncing off my ribs, my blood thundering around or try to raise hell." There was barely even a "realistic" struggle being staged. Read about how the encounter was partly out of seriousness below.
Before the "knowing" even transpired full consent was provided by both parties. The "knowing" never even happened until all consenting phrases were stated and after Anastasia said yes. She said yes, she said no and then she initiated things by asking for consent. Quite obviously people had an overgeneralized understanding about the definition of rape and were far too eager to see ill about the extremely complicated relationship between Anastasia and Mr. Grey. Bias against abnormal relationships such as homosexuality or BDSM was already prone to corrupt the perspectives of this pop novel turned movie.
According to the FBI the definition of rape is this. "Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim." Without the consent. How about that huh? There definitely appeared to be a strong bias on behalf of the critic's rendition as opposed to what actually did happen in the novel "Fifty Shades of Grey."
When Christian Grey went into the house of Anastasia he did it within the context of a sexual transpiration although there was some coercion involved. When the book stated, "He'd probably like to beat seven shades of *&%$ out of me," Steele thinks. "The thought is depressing." That was a thought and not an action. That same thought illustrated that Anastasia had feelings of guilt and dissatisfaction with alienation that had grown between the two as a couple. No abuse took place that night. The fact of the matter is that if rape were to be defined as the mere psychology or attraction that people wield over each other all sexual activities would be defined as rape. A person who suddenly decided not to like someone they slept with, because let's face it how many people does that happen to, could accuse someone else of rape at any time. Courts would be flooded with tales about how consensual sex is being had all over the world.
Stories about how nice abs or Lamborghinis were being wielded as powerful methods of consensual rape would suddenly be tried in a court of law and none of that would make any sense.
The psychology or level of attraction that one person wields over another is the very reason which people choose to talk to each other in the first place, that is until one of those subjects are no longer enough to sustain a relationship. That is also when relationships tend to end and so does consent.