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    People Shared The 14 Best Pieces Of Advice They Got From Self-Help Books

    Sometimes it's difficult to sort through all the noise.

    I recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community which quotes from self-help books they reaaaally found useful. And because I'm a HUGE advice book nerd, I threw in a few impactful pointers I've picked up as well. Here are the most useful tidbits:

    1. "Figure out what your goals are so you know where to find the finish line."

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    "This quote came from 52 Cups of Coffee: Inspiring and Insightful Stories for Navigating Life's Uncertainties by Megan Gebhart. There are lots of distractions in life, but when we know exactly what we want to accomplish, it's much easier to block out those barricades and charge ahead."

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    2. β€œIf you always make the right decision, the safe decision, the one most people make, you will be the same as everyone else.”

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    "This is from the book, Whatever You Think, Think the Opposite by Paul Arden."

    β€”fr3dster

    3. "You don't get a promotion for doing your job; you get a promotion for going above and beyond your job."

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    "This quote from Leave Your Mark: Land Your Dream Job. Kill It in Your Career. Rock Social Media by Aliza Licht was pretty eye-opening for me as a young professional who hadn't yet graduated from college. It's super easy to think that if you do x, y, and z, you'll get that raise or get that role you're after, but the truth is that staying comfortable in your role won't get you anywhere β€” you need to stretch yourself, master your job, and learn the job of the person above you."

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    4. "I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired, or to be real and loved. We must decide."

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    "This quote from Glennon Doyle's Love Warrior continues: 'If we choose to be perfect and admired, we must send our representatives out to live our lives. If we choose to be real and loved, we must send our true, tender selves. That's the only way because to be loved, we have to be known. If we choose to introduce our true selves to anyone, we will get hurt, but we will be hurt either way. There is pain in hiding and pain outside of hiding. The pain outside is better because nothing hurts as bad as not being known.'

    "The knowledge that I could only TRULY get what I wanted by being real and authentic and risking pain was hard to swallow, but it's SO true."

    β€”baumannsaraha

    5. "Intuition is always right in at least two important ways: It is always in response to something. It always has your best interest at heart."

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    "I got this from Gavin DeBecker's The Gift of Fear. Trust your gut; we have instincts for a reason. He uses the example that many women will go into a situation that their gut is yelling no to because they are afraid of looking silly or rude."

    β€”tcbirchard

    6. "Connections are rare. When you find one you believe in, trust your gut and invest."

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    "Take it from someone who has the worst luck with modern dating. After reading Jenna Birch's The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love, I realized that it's so easy to tell yourself that "he's not interested" because he left you on read and it's been a few days, or "she's too busy" with her friends to notice me. If you feel something you haven't felt with anyone else, swallow your damn pride and give it a shot!"

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    7. "We don't meet soulmates. We become them."

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    "This quote is from Marriage-ology: The Art and Science of Staying Together by Belinda Luscombe. For someone who married their high school sweetheart, it's very easy to believe that your spouse won't love the person you're growing and changing into as much as the one they fell in love with, so it was comforting to have the idea that change and 'becoming' is normal and healthy."

    β€”mcweenie

    8. "Anger can be a good thing. It's a mechanism that your brain uses to get you out of situations that are bad for you. But in terms of leading a peaceful life, it is not very productive."

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    "This is from Tara Westover's Educated. This memoir rocked my world. Reading this quote showed me that my anger at that point in my life could have one of two roles. I had to figure which, and change my life from there."

    β€”emilyg43b729f1f

    9. "The vast majority of your life will be boring and not noteworthy, and that's okay."

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    "This quote from The Subtle Art of Not giving a F*ck by Mark Manson reminds us that we don't have to constantly live like an Instagram feed to be happy. The book also taught me that your values and ambitions are not the same as everyone else's. Don't measure yourself against those of other people."

    β€”maggie684

    10. "How long will it take to meet Mr. Right if you are meeting only one new man in an average week? I'm not a mathematician, but the odds are pretty long."

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    "I'm a huge Matthew Hussey fan, so of course, I had to read Get the Guy. He explained the idea that if you aren't going out of your way to meet new people β€” and just leaving it all up to fate to drop them in your path β€” it's going to take you a REALLY long time to meet someone you want to be with."

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    11. β€œBe brave enough to break your own heart.”

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    "This piece of advice from Wild by Cheryl Strayed has basically had a huge impact on my life."

    β€”tadh2

    12. "Don't be afraid to do something that isn't a concrete task in your preexisting job, or something that doesn't seem to have an immediate benefit on you. Climbing the career lattice is all about laying the groundwork now for something much better down the road."

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    "The Financial Diet by Chelsea Fagan and Lauren Ver Hage taught me the importance of stretching myself at work β€” don't settle for stagnancy!"

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    13. "The problem isn't setting the bar too high and failing. The problem is setting the bar too low and succeeding."

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    "This quote came from The Element by Sir Ken Robinson."

    β€”kend4fe281761

    14. "Your best network will develop from what you do best."

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    "This quote from Dig Your Well Before You're Thirsty by Harvey Mackay showed me that the best network you could develop is one that's full of like-minded people with similar passions."

    β€”jasminsuknanan

    Please note that some submissions were edited for clarity and length.

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