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18 Things People Who Stay Friends With Their Ex Know

It IS possible, OK?

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1. Having a best friend who really gets you is amazing.

You could say it's the BEST.

3. Like when you constantly have to explain your relationship to people who just don't get it. / Via

It can be hard for some people to understand that you don't HAVE to cut someone out of your life to get closure. For some former couples, salvaging the best parts of the relationship into a great friendship is a much better deal.


6. It can take your new partners some getting used to. / Via

But the ones worth keeping are the ones who admire your ability to turn a relationship into a friendship. As Marilyn Monroe said, "If you can't take my BFF at her worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Or something like that.

7. And you'll probably never think their new partner is good enough. / Via

I'd recommend keeping this to yourself and staying supportive, but if you feel the need to make some subtle comments, well, you're really just helping – right?


9. And it will never be OK to sleep with each other's hot friends.

"What if she hits on me first?"


"What if I don't know they're your friend?"


"What if I give them a fake name?"


10. Your fights are definitely one-of-a-kind. / Via

I mean throwing stuff, in the middle of other peoples' houses, while all your other friends look on. This is why you broke up, tbh.


14. Sure, sometimes someone misreads a situation.

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'Cause sometimes you feel like doing stuff and you've been drinking and there's someone right there who you used to do stuff with... But it's never a good idea, you learn that quickly. The best people talk about it, then joke about it. It's only a big deal if you want it to be.

15. Making it work can be hard, but you're more than happy to do it.

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Sometimes you need to spend a bit of time apart, if you're getting on each other's nerves; sometimes you need to stay at their house every night for a week because they're sad. When you know how important a friendship is to you, you work extra hard at it.

16. But you learn so much about friendships and relationships. / Via

Transitioning from a romantic relationship to a friendship with an ex teaches you a lot about yourself, the other person, and how to be a better friend to pretty much everyone, actually. You also get to learn more about the ways you act differently in relationships, what it is you really want from a partner, and what makes them different from a really close friend.

17. You can't explain to people why you don't work as a couple, but you just both know you don't.

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"It's not you, it's our relationship status." See above for fighting, and wanting to sleep with other people.

18. What you do know is that they're the best friend you'll ever have, and that's worth holding on to.

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Someone who knows you inside out and is willing to work through the emotional baggage of a breakup to keep you in their life? JACKPOT, MOFOS.