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    18 Things People Who Stay Friends With Their Ex Know

    It IS possible, OK?

    1. Having a best friend who really gets you is amazing.

    2. But when your best friend is your ex, it can get complicated. / Via

    It's like a normal friendship, but with some extra hurdles.

    3. Like when you constantly have to explain your relationship to people who just don't get it.

    4. People will never stop asking if you're still sleeping together. / Via

    Answer 1: No.

    Answer 2: Why would I lie?

    Answer 3: Why are you so interested?

    5. And your family are seriously confused.

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    They're still rooting for the two of you to ride off into the sunset.

    6. It can take your new partners some getting used to. / Via

    But the ones worth keeping are the ones who admire your ability to turn a relationship into a friendship. As Marilyn Monroe said, "If you can't take my BFF at her worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Or something like that.

    7. And you'll probably never think their new partner is good enough.

    8. They'll think they're a good wingman. They are NOT a good wingman.

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    "I know he's great, I used to date him... where are you going?"

    9. And it will never be OK to sleep with each other's hot friends.


    "What if she hits on me first?"


    "What if I don't know they're your friend?"


    "What if I give them a fake name?"


    10. Your fights are definitely one-of-a-kind. / Via

    I mean throwing stuff, in the middle of other peoples' houses, while all your other friends look on. This is why you broke up, tbh.

    11. But you get to have a friend who knows everything about you.

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    Every *intimate* detail.

    12. So changing in front of each other and talking about ~personal~ stuff is no big deal.

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    In truth, you should probably get some barriers.

    13. But every barrier has already been crossed, so you're just weirdly comfortable.

    Inhibitions are boring anyway.

    14. Sure, sometimes someone misreads a situation.

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    'Cause sometimes you feel like doing stuff and you've been drinking and there's someone right there who you used to do stuff with... But it's never a good idea, you learn that quickly. The best people talk about it, then joke about it. It's only a big deal if you want it to be.

    15. Making it work can be hard, but you're more than happy to do it.

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    Sometimes you need to spend a bit of time apart, if you're getting on each other's nerves; sometimes you need to stay at their house every night for a week because they're sad. When you know how important a friendship is to you, you work extra hard at it.

    16. But you learn so much about friendships and relationships.

    17. You can't explain to people why you don't work as a couple, but you just both know you don't.

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    "It's not you, it's our relationship status." See above for fighting, and wanting to sleep with other people.

    18. What you do know is that they're the best friend you'll ever have, and that's worth holding on to.

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    Someone who knows you inside out and is willing to work through the emotional baggage of a breakup to keep you in their life? JACKPOT, MOFOS.

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