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    9 Things About British Stag Dos That I, An American, Find Completely Depraved

    Please do not strip me naked and tie me to a bench.

    Hi I'm James and I'm an American living in London. Last year I got married and invited my American friends to London and Scotland for my bachelor party. We had fun. I've also attended a British stag do. Allow me to point out some differences between the two celebrations.

    1. Brits call it a "Stag Do."

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    This must be connected to ancient Britons and their pagan traditions. Ah, yes, the noble stag — a symbol of freedom and virility, just like this strapping young buck. Watch as the young men clash their proverbial antlers in the ASDA carpark. I get the symbolism but it's strange to me as an American. It's pagan. It's weird. And then for women, the "bachelorette party" is called a "hen do." Stag ≠ Hen? What gives?

    2. In the UK, many stag dos wear matching costumes when they go out drinking.

    Look at the level of commitment. It's admirable.

    Seriously, it's so good.

    One of the best stag do’s I’ve ever been on, on one of the hottest days of the year yesterday, down in Marlow. #tuxedosandflippers #penguins I can’t stop laughing about it! 🤣

    3. British men on a stag do will chant and sing.

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    They do this during a pub crawl or bar crawl. They do this in the club. They do it on the plane at 6:15am en route to the stag destination. It's just a thing. They sing football songs, top 40 ballads, anything really. They also chant "Lads, lads, lads!" a lot. Which doesn't strike me as odd until I consider how weird I would feel yelling "Bros, bros, bros!" in the bar with my friends.

    4. Stag Do's often travel out of the country.

    5. Stag dos frequently force the groom to wear something skimpy or scandalous.

    6. Stag Dos are sometimes multigenerational, with the father, grandfather, and even father-in-law tagging along.

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    Americans will cringe at this because they immediately imagine how embarrassing it would be to do stupid drunken things in front of your future father-in-law. But in British culture, that is the point — and it's totally acceptable. In fact, the older generations can sometimes be the worst behaved. I find this to be an "unhealthy yet healthy" way to get to know the bride's family. This may be a controversial opinion, but I like the multigenerational thing.

    7. The things guys do "for fun" on a stag do in the UK are completely twisted and vile.

    American Bachelor Parties: "Bro we're getting so wasted haha" British Bachelor Parties: https://t.co/FjQ8Ev6ZGo

    I mean... wow.

    I cannot stress this enough: the level of drunken depravity on a stag do is completely off the charts in comparison to American bachelor parties.

    Brit 'stag lads' facing jail for parading through Polish city in mankinis https://t.co/6qTsvKzwBM

    8. But the antics are not random. The fundamental purpose of the depravity is to humiliate the groom. This is your opportunity to subject a close friend to levels of torture usually reserved for acting military.

    Benidorm stag party strap naked groom to tree with CLINGFILM https://t.co/63IVJdxlA8

    You might think these stunts are limited to lad culture — the most extreme alpha males. But witness below where I ask my colleagues at BuzzFeed for their stories. I can attest these guys are regular (dare I say "sensitive") guys — guys with wives, with children, with dreams.

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    A different colleague told me about his own stag: his friends got him wasted, tied him up, put him on a boat, and then unmoored the boat and let it drift away. He woke up the next morning, tied up, on a boat, in the middle of an unfamiliar lake. Another colleague said they went to China on a stag, got the groom on a bullet train (wearing a skimpy dress with no underwear, of course), waited until he'd passed out, and then abandoned him — abandoned him in a dress, on a bullet train speeding through China to a random city, in a country where he did not speak the language. All this mayhem from a sample size of 8 people.

    9. What is perhaps most sinister about the pranking is the creativity and foresight that goes into it. These pranks don't just happen. They are meticulously planned.

    Man gets friends' pubes glued to face for stag do, for some reason http://t.co/RJAB0EWgjJ

    It is a strange way to show your love. With friends like this, who needs enemies!?

    In conclusion, if you take one thing away from this article, it should be this: bachelor parties look like 5th-grade birthday parties in comparison to stag dos.

    Did I miss any important differences? How do you do stag dos or bachelor parties in your country?

    CORRECTION: An earlier version of this post contained a typo stating "The UK and Scotland" when Scotland is indeed a part of the UK.

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