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    16 Serious Questions I Have About "How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days" That I Need Answers To Immediately

    Who the hell has a love fern?!

    Hey y'all, I'm Jamé and I have a confession to make: I absolutely love shitty '00s rom-coms. During my most recent at-home movie binge, I watched How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days and realized there are some MAJOR questions I have to get off my chest.

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    In case you need a recap of the film, Andie Anderson (played by Kate Hudson) is a lifestyle columnist for a women's magazine called Composure. She wants to prove to her boss that she is a "serious" journalist, so she ideates "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days," a social experiment where she finds an unsuspecting man and tests out different things women do wrong in relationships to see what a man's breaking point is.

    Simultaneously, Ben Barry (played by a young, strapping Matthew McConaughey), works in advertising and makes a bet with his boss: If he can make any woman fall in love with him by the time of the upcoming company ball, then he gets to pitch his idea for a jewelry ad campaign. He and Andie run into each other at a fancy-schmancy bar, choose each other for their personal missions, and as you can probably imagine, the rest of the movie is filled with debauchery, madness, and unrealistic expectations.

    1. Why did Andie write on women sabotaging relationships when she wanted to prove that she could write about politics?

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    There's so much Andie could have written about if she had wanted to prove herself to her boss: the pay gap, gender inequality in heteronormative relationships, the influence of gender studies on workplace expectations, etc. But a social experiment that actually makes fun of your coworker's relationship behaviors to prove that it's because of the woman that a relationship fails? Eh, not really what we would think for a political writer.

    2. Speaking of which, wasn't it COMPLETELY messed up that Andie took her coworker's pain and plastered it as a story? Is that...journalism at its finest?

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    Would you want a friend that allows you to exploit someone else's emotions for a story? At no point did ANYONE think of what a story like this would do to Michelle, Andie's ~alleged~ best friend. Andie isn't a friend — she's exploitive and a bully.

    3. Instead of fighting to be seen at a publication that didn't write about politics, why didn't Andie just go to another publication that did?

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    Remember, this was before influencers graced magazine covers and publications like Teen Vogue got political. IF Andy had really wanted to write on politics, she could have pitched her portfolio and wrote for the New York Times or Washington Post. After all, she's an Ivy League grad with presumably strong ties to the industry.

    4. Furthermore, who did Andie think would benefit from her article? Like, who naturally is THAT erratic in relationships?

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    Judgement-free zone, BUT I'm totally judging you if you have love ferns in your apartment, or you name your boyfriend's peter-pecker. Andie could have wrote a piece with more relevant examples that would have been applicable to more women. Instead, if her piece had really gone to print the way she had intended, how many women would have looked up and been like, "OMG, this is totally me?"

    5. Personal remark, but why did Andie assume that a man would be turned off by a Celine Dion concert? Is that not gender-prescribing?

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    This whole situation showed me how both of these characters, as "progressive" as they felt, really played into gender norms. It's like we're supposed to be surprised that Andie loves the Knicks, or that Ben wouldn't have wanted to go to a Celine Dion concert. Those aren't praiseworthy — it just proves that people are multidimensional.

    6. Ben, he's a bit of a douche, right? IDC that he's a young, delicious Matthew McConaughey — what does his ability to make a woman fall in love with him have to do with his competency to run a jewelry ad campaign?

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    Super grimy when you need to exploit someone's emotional vulnerability to prove you can pitch a campaign, right?

    7. Why did Andie not drop-kick him for stealing her "frosting" line and presenting it as his own idea to his boss? I, personally, was livid.

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    Excuse me sir, you couldn't come up with something on your own? I want to know if Andie was cut a check, did she receive dividends, a shoutout, something. Ladies, we are NOT letting men steal our ideas! Get that money, honey.

    8. Honestly, why didn't the two of them just make up the whole thing and scam everyone else involved?

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    They could have easily worked it out where Andie pretended to love Ben at the end and then get dumped the next day. She would have had her story for Composure and he would have secured the bag.

    I understand journalistic integrity, but there is nothing either of these two are doing that constitutes integrity. Heck, since everyone wants to lie to each other, why not just lie to the people who gave you the bet?

    9. When Andie left Ben's apartment the first time, where were her keys, phone, and credit cards? For all she knows, Ben could have stolen her credit card information and ran up a bill at Neiman Marcus!

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    We don't know if Andie had roommates, but we do know she had to get into her apartment. She didn't take anything with her when she left Ben's apartment and I just want to know what made her think that was a safe idea. The girl didn't even have a few dollars on her in case of an emergency, and I just wonder how practical, or smart, her plan was.

    10. Why did Mrs. DeLauer get barely any airtime in this movie? She clearly was the star of the whole damn thing and deserved her own prequel.

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    In a world of black and white, she was Kool-aid red. I want to know how she met Mr. DeLauer, her life and upbringing before the millions, and all about her extravagant (and vibrant) wardrobe. Does she have different wigs for her different outfits? TELL ME.

    11. Why do Andie and Ben both act like huge babies at the end? My loves, you both tried to destroy each other's lives. That's kind of what you get?

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    Snitches get stitches, but heartbreakers get...well, broken hearts, right? I have no pity on either of them. They both suck.

    12. Can we admit that it's kind of a stretch that Andie realizes that Ben is a ~good~ guy simply after seeing him change his nephew's diaper? Is the bar THAT low?

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    Granted, if I saw a man wrist-deep in poop, I might give him a few gold stars. But a changed diaper doesn't mean anything about, ya know, love.

    13. While Andie is with Ben's family, she acts like a regular person. Wouldn't that have sent red flags to Ben? The same person buying love ferns is now being completely normal?

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    It felt like Andie did a huge 180, and I wonder if Ben even noticed. I know he has to get his part of the bet handled, but isn't he paying attention to his 10-day significant other's mannerisms?

    14. Speaking of which, where's Andie's family? Where's her mama? Her cousins? Her nanna? Anyone?

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    Sooo...we just don't get a chance to meet Andie's side of the family? What if they didn't even rock with Ben like that?

    15. Is a 10-day relationship really worth leaving NYC, Andie? You lost the only guy you've ever fallen for, yet you ain't care about losing him? WHAT IS THIS.

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    I'll be very honest: How much love do you have with someone in a matter of days? This isn't even a bi-weekly pay period, and you're running away from NYC — with the biggest dating scene — to escape a broken heart? Sis, sit down.

    16. Finally, why did we never get a sequel to this movie? We deserved one.

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    Unfortunately the time has passed for a proper reboot, but there were a lot of questions that were left unresolved in this anti-romantic rom-com. Where does Andie end up working after Composure? Does she go freelance? Does she and Ben end up together long-term, and if not, what happens to their dog? Unfortunately these are questions we will never know (seriously Paramount, don't come up with a sequel now) but can only imagine.

    What were some things that ticked you off? Leave them in the comments below!