back to top

5 reasons why befriending your parents on Facebook is never ever a good idea

Don't fall into the trap of helping your parents get social media.

Posted on

You won't believe this criminal lawsuit taking place over Facebook photos. Julian Robinson, from Daily Mail Online discovered that last month, an 18-year-old Austrian girl was suing her parents for embarrassing photos of her being put on Facebook. She claims that there were pictures of her being potty-trained, having her diaper changed and 500 other intimate photos. She claims she just wants her parents to take her seriously and stop treating her like a child. Sound familiar? Now imagine if this was you. You walk into your parent's house; they're smiling, reminiscing about the "good ol' days".

They say to you: "Hey hun, check your phone! We've uploaded some of our best memories."

Feeling horrified, you open your Facebook to find hundreds of pictures of yourself. You naked as a baby. You potty training. You with your first haircut, your first lost tooth. Would you go to the extent to sue them? There are many good reasons why you should never, ever befriend your parents on Facebook. In fact, it could even save you a law suit.

In every parent-child relationship there should be some boundaries that come with it. Should this be included in one of them? Social media such as Facebook are making those boundaries become increasingly blurred. It basically takes those lines that should never be crossed and crosses them. Gustavo Mesh, a senior professor at Haifa University writes in 2009 that Familial Relations and the Internet that having family members on Facebook can actually decrease the quality of relationships. As the 18-year old girl showed, it can cause tension between the two of you. In our society today, some parents may seem like they want to appear more like a friend to their child, rather than an authoritative figure. However, the fact is that they are your parent, not your best friend. Elen Jackson and a team of researchers from Miami University writes in his 2016 journal Cultural Variation in Reports of Subjective Experience of Parent– Child Boundary Dissolution Among Emerging Adults, that when the boundaries between parent and child are gone, this results in them feeling overwhelmed, sad, and emotionally distanced from their guardian. As much as they need you to be friendly with them, they also need guidance and a role model to look up to. Therefore, over sharing information and photographs can lead to negative results.

1. They don’t know basic abbreviations.


Marilyn, in no universe does LOL mean “lots of love.” A+ for effort though. This is a common mistake made by most parents. They aren't able to keep up with the trending lingo and abbreviations.

2. On top of that, they’ll say inappropriate things


Finding out your mom needs more sex is one of the last things that you want to hear as her child. Talk about scarring. This is a good example of over sharing as I mentioned earlier.

Even if their oversharing is not to his extent, there will still be things that you didn't need to know about your parents. For example - you do not need to see that low cut top she wore on girls night at the club (even though you're too old for that, mom). Save yourself the information you don't want to know by not accepting their friend request.

3. They don't understand the boundary of what to share and what not to share.


Imagine this was your Dad. Once again, did you really need to see this? Probably not. This is also another spectacular example of sharing too much information with you (and the whole wide web) of your parent’s sex life. As I mentioned, in the previous post, there are sides of your parents that you don't need to know. Bottom line is: parents are different when they are around their friends. Think of Facebook as them with all their friends. Do you really want to listen in on their conversations about who knows what? If you wouldn't eavesdrop on their conversation in person, don't add them on Facebook.

4. You’ll forget you have them.


For those of you still living under your parent’s roof I have one word for you: busted. Also, it's never a good idea to Facebook under the influence. Parents are the ultimate creepers on your social media. Even if you do not post this outwardly about your latest illegal adventures, they will find some incriminating evidence of you - whether it's through a wall post, an old photo or a comment on a friend's status - they'll find it.

5. They won’t know where to comment.


Clearly this father is having trouble differentiating between Google and where to update his Facebook status. If this were your father you would have to go through and explain how the Internet and social media works to the poor guy.

In general, they probably won't know how to post a picture, tag people, or private message someone. Guess who is going to have to teach them that? You are. Imagine hours of explaining and walking them through the app. They probably still won't get it the next time they post and then you're back to square one.

Ultimately, save yourself the trouble and them the embarrassment by not letting them get Facebook in the first place.

Do you have any embarrassing Facebook stories about your parents to share?

This post was created by a member of BuzzFeed Community, where anyone can post awesome lists and creations. Learn more or post your buzz!