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    16 Trans-Affirming Sex Toys You Should Know About

    There are no sex toys on the market specifically for trans women that I could find but I tried my very best to make this list as inclusive as possible

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    Hi there! My name is Harper, I am trans-nonbinary and excited to bring you this list of sex toys that are affirming for trans* people. Before you dive in though, I would like to acknowledge that this list does not include toys that are specifically made/designed for trans*women. I've done my best to include toys in this post that trans*women can use and enjoy, but unfortunately, the language used for these toys is ungendered at best, and not inclusive or reflective of the fact that trans women are valid and deserve to be included in round-ups like these. Trans*women deserve to have access to gender-affirming toys.

    I hope to be able to create a list that is just as inclusive for trans women as well in the future (sex toy companies, I'm looking at you, 👀 this is unacceptable). If there are any trans-affirming toys you know about and I may have missed, please let me know in the comments!

    Also, a quick heads-up that this list includes toys and products that are designed for trans folks with body dysphoria. Some of these toys use binarist and cis-gendered language in their product descriptions that some folks may not identify with.

    For more info and insight on all types of dysphoria (including body dysphoria), check out Eli Erlick's video "You Don't Need Dysphoria to be Trans."

    1. A trans pride dildo that'll hit all the right spots. This toy is made with body-safe silicone, is harness compatible, and has a suction-cup base.

    the dildo with the colors of the trans* flag

    Get it from Rodeoh for $34.99.

    2. A comfy and durable boxer harness – it's compatible with all trans bodies and anatomies, and dildos with a 1.5” diameter or less. No straps, no buckles, just comfy layers of fabric and vibe pockets right where you need them!

    the strap on in green with an o-ring in the center

    Get it from Rodeoh for $49.99 (available in sizes XS–3X).

    3. A bendable, flexible posable Shiloh dildo that'll become your go-to toy in no-time. Reviewers love it for packing and strap-on play.

    New York Toy Collective, New York Toy Collective / Via

    Promising review: "Purchased the blue/pink option. Love how trans-affirming and body-positive NYTC is. Was absolutely great to use and the base helped my partner not feel uncomfortable when wearing (a prior problem). Small and soft enough for her to receive. We both have worn and received and found it incredibly hot. I’m excited to move up to the Carter personally." —Eli

    Get it from New York Toy Collective for $149 (available in 12 colors).

    4. And a pair of comfy and cute underwear with built-in compression padding meant for anyone who tucks to wear (without tucking) and live their best life.

    solid colored underwear in bikini, brief, and waist styles

    Promising review: "I am just overcome with emotion about how well these fit and that they do what is advertised. I will be making many more purchases." —Kaylee

    Get it from LeoLines on Etsy for $22.50+ (available in sizes AXL-C2, in multiple styles, and eight colors).

    5. A stroker designed specifically for trans folks who are working with parts that are smaller in size because not all trans* people medically transition (and that's totally normal and okay!), and we all deserve to get off using toys made for our bodies.

    the black silicone stroker

    Get it from Babeland for $29.95.

    6. A They/Them dildo for anyone whose pronouns are they/them, so you can have a toy that aligns with your gender!

    the dildos in blue, pink, and silver colors

    Get it from Rodeoh for $38.24 (available in three colors).

    7. A hollow BJ dildo designed specifically for blowjobs — the funnel-shaped interior creates a suction for the wearer in just the right spot (it's made to fit a variety of transdick sizes), making this an ideal toy to try with a partner.

    the BJ dildo in blue, slightly curved upwards

    Get it from Rodeoh for $79.99 (available in five colors).

    8. A pleasurable and soft love bump so you can have a little cushion next time you go to use your harness/strap for hours on end. My partner and I have different anatomies and we both have tried and liked this toy.


    Get it from Rodeoh for $39.99 (available in nine colors).

    9. A versatile two-in-one stroker designed to work with or without bottom growth (it will suction onto anatomy at least 1/2″ in diameter), so you can use it to pack, stroke, or play (solo or with a partner) in a whole new way.

    New York Toy Collective

    Promising review: "The texture and size were great for solo play, Jack gave a nice amount of suction when squeezed, and also felt amazing with a vibrator applied to the outside. The only stroker I’ve ever used that actually worked for my body. When I wore Jack with the NYTC packing strap, I was able to position it so that my bits were lined up with the hole, and it gave a nice direct pressure sensation during normal wear. It wasn’t an intense arousal sensation, it just transferred any pressure on the packer to my phallus, rather than a normal packer, which transfers pressure to my mons. The packing strap did a surprisingly good job of keeping it in place inside pants while walking and sitting, and the strap wasn’t visible while I was just wearing briefs. Overall a great packing experience, if you don’t mind a small packer, which I prefer." —Harry

    Promising review: "My partner and I used the Jack yesterday. They are trans masculine and three years on testosterone. We used it in two different ways. The first way, I used a nice amount of lube, opened the stroker and suctioned it and stroked. It worked best with reinforcement by hand. Most strokers we come across seem as if they are designed for transmasculine folks who are more developed growth-wise physically. With that being said we improvised and the toy wound up giving amazing results for my partner. They give it a 9/10 and said that they are interested in seeing this develop in different shapes and sizes. I also suctioned it, applied pressure with fingers, and performed oral sex. He said it was very pleasurable to be able to receive head and have the point of view visual that Jack creates. It helped with his dysphoria." —Summer

    Get it from New York Toy Collective for $59 (available in four skin tones).

    10. A colorful tail butt plug for anyone who is feeling *foxy* and adventurous in the bedroom.

    a manikin hand holding onto the pastel rainbow tail
    Vuzara / Via Etsy

    Get it from Vuzara on Etsy for $29.99+ (available in three sizes).

    11. And a tail and ears set made to withstand being pulled on, so if you feel like getting kinky with a partner there's nothing to stop you.

    a manikin wearing the ears and holding onto the tail
    Vuzara / Via Etsy

    Promising review: "Beautiful! So soft and fits well (the headband/ears). The tail is wonderful. I love that I can wear with or without the plug attachment. Would recommend. Amazing quality." —Megan Davies

    Get it from Vuzara on Etsy for $117.99+ (available in three sizes).

    12. A trans masc pump designed to surround and enlarge transdicks and bottom growth of all sizes. Both reviewers on and not on T love it!

    New York Toy Collective

    Promising review: "Love this. It actually works really well for me because I have significant growth but I don’t see why it wouldn’t work just as well for those without. Would definitely recommend!" —Mo

    Get it from New York Toy Collective for $29.99.

    13. A minimalist vibrator that'll look sleek on your dresser and turn things up a notch or two in the sheets! It has a runtime of up to 2.5 hours and is just right for all bodies.

    a hand holding onto the vibe

    This vibe is also latex-free, water-resistant, and made of 100% platinum-grade silicone.

    Promising review: "Easy to use and truly hits the spot. It can fit delicately in my hand for either myself or with a partner. Three different levels of vibration really turn up the experience for both myself and my partner." —Danielle C.

    Get it from Maude for $45.

    14. A love bump with the perfect place for a bullet vibe so you can take your next strap-on sesh to another level of sensation that you and your partner will enjoy.

    a hand holding the love bump which has a stretchy ring for wear and a bullet vibe inserted into the toy
    New York Toy Collective

    Promising review: "I feel like I’ve been missing out my entire adult life before this thing. Not only do they hang and swing in a pleasing way (which is nice for my identity as a trans man) but when I’m intimate with someone they create a new level of sensation that has led to some very exciting results. The design is completely genius. Thanks, NYTC!" —Griff

    Get it from New York Toy Collective for $49.99+ (available in seven colors).

    15. A trans pride or nonbinary pride Popsicle dildo that's flexible and bendy in all the right ways, so you can have a blast with this toy every time you use it.

    Love Crafters Toys / Via Etsy

    Get them from Love Crafters Toys on Etsy: the trans pride toy for $70.20 or the nonbinary pride toy for $70.20.

    16. And an investment-worthy pack and play prosthetic with features that'll rock your world — it folds in the middle for packing, comes with a jointed rod insert to make the shaft erect during sex, and a textured inside for you to get off while in-use!


    Get it from Rodeoh for $149.99.

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