People Shared What Happened After Rejected Proposals And Some Were Actually Kind Of Inspiring
Turns out, most of the time it worked out for the best!
Reddit is a wonderful place to source information, gather opinions, and spread memes. But one of my favorite parts of Reddit is the Ask Reddit subreddit.
Recently, user jagaraujo posted quite the thought-provoking question: "Men of reddit who proposed and she said no, what happened afterwards with your life?"
1. This man was rejected twice, but then his girlfriend ended up proposing to him.
"My mom rejected my father the first TWO times. There were no real hard feelings between them. I guess my mother was just not ready for marriage yet.
She ended up proposing to him. My grandmother and mother sewed a suit for their dog to wear and attached a sign around his neck with a ring that read 'will you marry me?' Then she sent the dog out into the kitchen to beg for scraps while my father was preparing dinner. The next thing she heard was a very concerned voice shouting 'HONEY! The dog is asking me to marry him!' My parents are still married two decades later."
2. This pairing wasn't right at the time, but it was years later.
"Back in high school, I dated this girl I was all wrong for at the time. It was going way too fast, so we broke up on good terms. One of the last times we talked, I asked her if she would marry me one day. She laughed it off and said no way, and that I was definitely not the marrying type. Fast-forward to college, I was working full-time and she was a law student when she happened to walk into the liquor store where I was the manager. We talked for an hour, just talking and catching up. At the end of the conversation as she was leaving, I jokingly asked her to marry me again. We both laughed and she said, 'we'll see.'
We'll have been married 16 years in October."
3. This man had been rejected so many times, he freaked out when his proposal was accepted.
"My dad asked my mom to marry him several times. She said no several times. One day, my dad asked my mom to marry him (yet again) and she said yes! He freaked out and left her apartment and dumped her. Three weeks later, he hated his life without her and begged her to take him back and marry him. They were married nine months later for 16 years until my mom passed from cancer."
4. This man's proposal surprise was ruined, but it ended up working out for the best.
"In 2017, Google came up with this idea to allow you to make photo books out of your Google Photos account. My girlfriend and I had been dating for almost two years and I knew she was the one I wanted to marry, so I created this wonderful photo book of all of our selfies together and ended it with a page made out of a photo I generated that said, 'will you marry me?' I then proceeded to put all these things into an album and build the photo book.
What didn't occur to me at the time was that the album I put these in was a shared album and the other person gets a notification when you add new photos to it. And the other person that the album was shared with? My girlfriend.
That evening, we had dinner and it all came out. She saw the photos and she wasn't ready. There were a few reasons why, but they were all good reasons mostly to do with timing, family, and finances. We weren't breaking up; we just weren't getting engaged at that time. A year later, we had fully discussed the concept of getting married. We went ring shopping, she picked her own ring, and by the time I actually did propose, we both knew what her answer would be."
5. When this man proposed, he discovered his girlfriend had stage fright.
"I spoke to her about it beforehand and she seemed really keen on the idea, so I decided to propose about a week later in front of all our friends. She was so shocked she picked me up off my knee and shooed me away. I didn't know what to do — it was all really embarrassing. Later, she explained she didn't mean no, she just didn't know what to say in the moment and was scared. She said yes after apologizing profusely and just this year we celebrated our ninth anniversary."
6. This man's girlfriend said yes the next day.
"My mother turned my father down, but didn't outright break up with him. She just wasn't sure about the marriage idea; she valued her independence and was nervous about commitment. He called up the next day when she'd had more time to think about it, and she said yes after all. They celebrated 32 years of marriage last month."
7. This man was grateful it didn't work out.
"I proposed to her at the very top of one of those observation wheels before a family event and she said yes, but a few days later she said no. Everything fell apart. We continued dating for a while, but it was long distance — she was on the other side of the world. Whenever I visited, it was super awkward. Eventually, her dad kicked me out. I flew home on standby and was stuck in an airport for four days. It took me years to recover.
Now I am happily married and am glad it never worked out. I was not in a good place when I met her and her family was super controlling. The woman I married is super cool and is my best friend. Everything turned out better than expected."
8. This man's girlfriend wasn't one for traditional marriage, but she came around.
"She had said she wasn't really a fan of marriage, so I thought proposing non-marriage might be well received. I wanted us to be together for the rest of our lives, so I asked her not to marry me.
She said no. We have been married for 10 years."
9. This man had a rough time after his wedding fell apart, but recovered and was stronger for it.
"When I first proposed she said yes, but a month before the wedding she took it back. This is what happened immediately with my life. I personally lost thousands of dollars in deposits, as did both of our parents. I didn't take any calls because everyone was pissed and I didn't want to hear it. I was depressed and just stayed in bed, and ended up having to go to the ER for severe dehydration and an infection.
What happened when I got over it? I became stronger for it. I didn't propose to anyone until a decade later — honestly there wasn't anyone that I didn't love deeply enough to be in a committed relationship. But when I proposed in my thirties my relationship was more mature than the first time I proposed. We've now been married for 13 years, and she's my best friend."
10. This woman just needed some time.
"We were living together. I asked and she said, 'No, I love you but I need to think about it. I don't think I'm ready yet. Can you give me some time and ask later?' A few months went by, and I asked again, but got the same response. A few more months, same deal. A couple more weeks went by and then she said, 'Hey, what do you think of us getting married?' I replied, 'That's an excellent idea. Why didn't I think of that?'
Our 39th anniversary is next month."
11. This man found love after his failed proposal, but reconnected with his high school sweetheart after tragedy struck.
"Back in the '60s, my father proposed to his high school sweetheart shortly before he graduated. She was a year behind him and only 16 at the time, and made the (much more mature) decision of answering 'not now, I’m only 16!' But all he heard was 'no' and after a few months of fighting, he broke things off with her. He met my mother a little while after he graduated and they married. They were together for 43 years and had three children before she passed in 2009. In 2017, my father reconnected with his old high school girlfriend at a funeral (as 70-year-olds apparently do) and they have started dating again. We (his kids) all really like her and are happy that he has companionship."
12. This man proposed to save a failing relationship and was grateful his partner said no.
"My first major girlfriend started slipping away and I thought it’d be a great idea to propose to her so she’d be with me forever. Thankfully, she was too smart for my desperation and turned me down flat, telling me upfront that she was too young to settle down and wanted to have fun. Losing her was more traumatic than being turned down and I struggled with despair, but I channeled myself into my career, which took off. A few years later, I found my true love and it was she who proposed to me...26 years later, we are still happy. As for my ex, I can only thank her for being smart enough to know that we were never destined to be together."
13. This man dodged a bullet.
"I dated a woman for over two years and popped the question. The first time she said she didn't know. A couple months later I asked her again and she said 'maybe.' I was pretty bent out of shape, but then I found out she was sleeping with several of my friends, so I dodged a bullet there really."
14. This man was rejected six times before a fortune cookie changed everything.
"We had been dating about six weeks. I just knew she was the one. She said, 'You're a great guy and I love you, but I'm not ready to get married.' We continued dating. I asked again a week or so later. Similar response.
Lather, rinse, repeat. I asked four more times over the next few weeks. Finally, we were at a Chinese restaurant and the fortune cookies came. Mine said, 'Your wish is within reach. Ask once more.' Hers said, 'Get your hope chest ready.' No bullshit, no setup — totally random cookies from the restaurant. I reached across the table, took her hand and asked for the seventh time. She didn't really say, 'Yes.' It was more like a sigh and a resigned 'Okay.'
That was 1981. We're still together and giddily in love."
15. This person's elderly neighbors had the sweetest story.
"Not me, but I want to talk about my old neighbors. They would always be on their swinging bench in the morning drinking coffee, holding hands when I was getting ready for work. He was always outside planting her favorite things and taking care of them.
He was in the Army and met her where he was stationed. He begged her to run away with him as he was going home in a week. She said no, but he asked her every day anyway. On the last day, she had her stuff packed and left across the country to be with him.
He was always so nice. We would see him out and about getting her flowers or a single slice of pie from Shari's. He genuinely loved her. They both got ill around the same time and died together on the same day."
16. This woman's proposal was rejected because her partner wanted to wait for the real thing.
"Not a man, but when I first proposed to my now-wife she said no — not because we weren't in love, but because she had a very strong belief that gay people should not compromise themselves by accepting a half-assed attempt at being egalitarian from the governing political party. At the time, the option was 'civil partnerships.' I accepted that without question. When it became legal for LGBTQ+ people to marry their same-sex partners, she asked me immediately and I said yes (of course)."
17. The timing just wasn't quite right for this man's proposal.
"I asked her on video. She was a couple years older and had just gone through a bad divorce years earlier. Her daughter helped me set the whole thing up. I had put the ring inside a pumpkin when we were making jack-o'-lanterns. She looked in, saw the ring, looked me dead in the eyes and said 'I'm sorry...'
'I guess I'll stop filming,' her daughter promptly added, cutting the video.
We stayed together and when Christmas rolled around, she let me know she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. It's been ups and downs, but we are still here. Blended family kicking ass and living life. Sometimes the timing is off, but when it is right it's pretty sweet."
18. This man drowned his sorrows at a local bar until his girlfriend came to find him.
"My mother told my father no three times. On the third time, he got wasted at a local bar and basically started pouring his heart out to anyone who’d listen. Mind you, it was a very small village in the Italian Alps and my father barely spoke Italian. Word got back to my mom about this sad American at the bar, so she went to find him and she told him she’d marry him. My parents celebrated their 44th anniversary last month."
19. And finally, this man (well, boy) had an early run-in with heartbreak.
"I remember it like it was yesterday. This girl was gorgeous. I didn't even know her name and I asked. I just knew she was the one. She said no and went to play with the blocks. I was devastated. It took me until after nap time to get over it. Kindergarten was rough."