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    23 Times TV Was Actually Realistic About Love And Relationships

    "That is not destiny. That is not fate. That is commitment."

    Recently, we asked the BuzzFeed Community what TV relationship portrays love really realistically, proving that love takes work but is always worth it! Here are some of the best responses.

    SPOILERS AHEAD!

    1. David and Patrick from Schitt’s Creek

    at their wedding, David tells Patrick things haven't always been easy for him, but knowing Patrick will be there for him at the end of the day makes everything okay
    Pop!TV

    "Patrick is extremely patient with David’s antics, and at the same time, David also realizes he can be a bit much and tries to compromise in his own way. I love how they complement each other so well despite being so completely different."

    alysaurus688

    2. Nathan and Haley from One Tree Hill

    Nathan tells Haley the roots are still there, but it just takes time
    The WB

    "Even though they were together through the whole show, they still faced hardships, including a cheating scandal. They made it work, however, because they knew that they needed to for their family."

    g_berniee25

    3. Jake and Amy from Brooklyn Nine-Nine

    Fox

    "Although they don’t have the dramatized cheating and lying scandals (because they’re actually healthy), they definitely go through ups and downs as a couple, like having trouble with having kids or being challenged by their jobs."

    aniedselius

    4. Adam and Kristina from Parenthood

    NBC

    "Their child's autism diagnosis, her cancer, his work problems, infidelity, their daughter's behavior, etc...The actors really reflect what parents go through when their child is autistic. The actors were so good!"

    cassandrahunter

    5. Coach Eric and Tami Taylor from Friday Night Lights

    NBC

    "They were a strong couple who both worked with high schoolers, while dealing with their own (bratty) high schooler, Julie. They had just moved to a new town. They even did the long-distance thing for a while while Coach was doing college football, then moved again to the East Coast."

    greenzoe

    "Yes! They are my couple goals, I aspire to have a relationship as loving and honest as theirs."

    meredithslay

    6. Chuck and Sarah from Chuck

    Chuck asks if Sarah could love a regular guy, and she says she fell in love with one
    NBC

    "They went through SO much but always ended up loving and supporting one another."

    buzzwordz

    7. Beth and Randall from This Is Us

    Beth says Beth is a beautiful, resilient man, and the world is a brilliant, resilient place, and they'll fight on
    NBC

    "They have such a healthy relationship without it being picture perfect. They struggle and argue but always come out together and stronger. They both learned to support each other’s dreams without sacrificing their own."

    foldinthecheesedavid

    8. Dre and Bow from Black-ish

    ABC

    "Dre and Bow from Black-ish, hands down: the whole separation arc but then coming together again, plus how realistic their co-parenting is."

    asmithy

    "That separation arc killed me. I was so relieved when they stayed together!"

    childrenofthecornbread

    9. Claire and Phil from Modern Family

    ABC

    "They're cute and a good balance. Obviously it's a comedy, but it still shows a lot of the realistic situations — like when Claire starts working again and when their kids move out."

    jjaspen

    10. Mindy and Danny from The Mindy Project

    Fox

    "Unpopular opinion: Mindy and Danny from The Mindy Project. They were funny and hot together. Both of them were far from perfect, but they learned and grew. Danny got so much better at rooting for Mindy in the end, which was 100% necessary for them to work out."

    melaniet12

    11. Monica and Chandler from Friends

    NBC

    "They’re such a real, genuine couple who love each other and work through issues like infertility and adoption together and come out even stronger."

    rachell11

    12. Leslie and Ben from Parks and Recreation

    Leslie tells Ben it's worth the risk if they can be together
    NBC

    "I’m not a huge fan of long-distance relationships, but I loved how their relationship grew even during their time apart from each other. I’ve had friends in real life who had to go through some of the problems, and like Leslie and Ben, their relationship grew. It was nice to see a happy ending from a long-distance relationship. Also, the way Ben and Leslie supported each other but could turn around and call each other out really showed a strong, trusting relationship between them. And how they helped the other one achieve their dreams. Or how they were completely okay with each other’s weird hobbies or favorite things. Ben accepted Leslie’s love of waffles, while Leslie accepted Ben’s love of calzones."

    megana459810788

    13. Lily and Marshall from How I Met Your Mother

    CBS

    "They separated for a while but ultimately chose each other and the people they were becoming. I think some people overly criticize the way their relationship is portrayed — yes, sometimes they do shitty things. But that's real life. Nobody is perfect to their partner, and the mistakes we make come in all shapes and sizes. When push came to shove, Lily and Marshall stuck by each other and were never afraid to have the tough conversations and do the work."

    mmcguinness998

    14. Turk and Carla from Scrubs

    NBC

    "They go through marriage difficulties and work through it in counseling together, then they face difficulties conceiving and when they do conceive, they have to go through Carla's postpartum depression. They come out the end of everything stronger than before, and the show never tries to act like their relationship is perfect."

    princesspea09

    15. Magnus and Alec from Shadowhunters

    Freeform

    "They went through so much together, but they were always there for each other, even when they were broken up. The show ended too soon, but their wedding made me so happy. If anyone deserves a happy ending, it’s them!"

    janetsnakehole2

    16. Emily and Richard Gilmore from Gilmore Girls

    The WB

    "Gilmore Girls doesn't have a lot of healthy relationships, but Emily and Richard Gilmore definitely anchor the show. They argue a lot and even separate for a while, but they get through it and come back to each other. Their great relationship behind the 'I insist I go first' thing in Season 1 made Richard's death in the revival even more devastating."

    amandalevyp

    17. Jim and Pam from The Office

    NBC

    "Most people don’t like the later seasons, but I absolutely loved how they showed the tough times after they got their 'happily ever after.' The realness of the need for couples therapy and compromise was inspiring."

    marissaoehler

    18. Xiomara and Rogelio from Jane the Virgin

    At their wedding, Jane talks about how they chose each other through all their obstacles, and that's commitment
    The CW

    "They have such powerful chemistry and passion, and even though they took a long time to get together, they were constantly making the other one better. Once they got together, they were loving and strong. They were both strong personalities, but they compromised for each other, and Jane was so unbelievably happy when they got together and made it work that it made it even more special."

    l4b8a7d01f

    19. Sam and Grizz from The Society

    Netflix

    "They have such amazing chemistry, but Grizz believes Sam is the father of Becca's baby (Sam is not but he promised Becca he would take on that role). Having a relationship with that strain (especially as high schoolers) seems incredibly difficult. Not to mention the challenges that come with being openly gay and Grizz needing to learn American Sign Language to effectively communicate with Sam. I still hope for them, even though Netflix won't be providing a second season."

    hiitsnicetomeetyou

    20. Gary and Maggie from A Million Little Things

    ABC

    "Their relationship is equally heartwarming and tragic. Gary is literally the reason Maggie is alive and was the only person that could get through to her when she wanted to give up, and Maggie was the only person that could break through Gary's walls and be the support system he always needed. They did so much for each other and grew into better people together. I was devastated when they broke up, even though the reasoning was legit. However, even in the awkwardness of post breakup, they were still there for each other. I'm still holding out hope that they'll find their way back to each other."

    sabrinaslaughter

    21. Bob and Linda Belcher from Bob’s Burgers

    Bob tells Linda he didn't get her anything forr Valentine's day, and she says she didn't get him anything either
    Fox

    "They’re such a positive representation of long-term love. Their relationship is an awesome example of acceptance, mutual support, and how to be a part of a couple without losing yourself. Plus, they’re great parents who seem to genuinely like their kids and each other."

    jenleepeace

    22. Lynette and Tom Scavo from Desperate Housewives

    ABC

    "Lynette and Tom Scavo are such goals. They both put so much work into their marriage throughout the show. Lynette is the only one to stay married the whole show and that's because she and Tom work so well together."

    bot2176

    "They went through so much: the tornado, Lynette's cancer, the restaurant, having a fifth child and then almost getting divorced, but somehow, they worked through it all and stayed together."

    vijayasingh

    23. And finally, Drew and Bianca from Degrassi: The Next Generation

    CTV

    "They went through SO much together and always, always had each other's backs. Even when Drew was with someone else, it was obvious he never stopped loving Bianca. The writers need to pay us in emotional damages for not having them end up together."

    kellymartinez

    Note: Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.

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