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    Apparently There Are Unwritten Rules Of Dating That Everyone Should Be Following, So Take Notes

    Please, stop ghosting people.

    We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to share what they consider to be the most important "unwritten rules" of dating. Here are some of the best responses:

    1. "Quit 'ghosting' people! Be an adult and tell them why you don't want to be in the relationship anymore. Do NOT break up over text or email. It's cowardly and disrespectful."

    Man saying "it's true"

    2. "Enter relationships with a neutral amount of trust rather than an undeserved lack of trust or unproven confidence. Let people show you who they are."

    jordonk

    3. "Be friends with your partner. If you can’t be yourself around them, the relationship probably won’t go very far."

    vellichords

    4. "For the first date, if they want to meet in public and drive themselves, be okay with that."

    Woman saying "be safe"

    5. "You should always be straightforward about seeing other people and being sexually active with other people. Withholding information about what kind of relationship you want prevents the other person from having reasonable expectations."

    saras4ee505300

    6. "Observe and respect exes, siblings, and best friends. Do not date anyone from one of these groups without at least letting the party know. Don't go for your best friend's ex, your sibling's best friend, etc. If you cross that line, at least have the decency to bring it up. A blessing is not necessarily required, but understand that proceeding without it can get messy."

    brentus86

    7. "You should both be putting equal effort into it, even if it’s just casual. If they wanted to text/call/hang out with you, they would make it happen! Even if you’re just casually hooking up with someone, mutual respect and communication should still be the foundation or things can go downhill really fast. Dating is supposed to be fun, not make you feel like shit! Don’t waste time on people who treat you badly!"

    Woman holding up her hand and saying, "Preach!"
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    8. "Communicate, communicate, communicate! You should always feel able to be open and honest with your partner. Sharing feelings is incredibly important to keep the relationship healthy!"

    purolandprincess

    9. "Sexual boundaries need to be set. I understand it can be uncomfortable for some people, but it can greatly improve sex lives and relationships. State what you’re comfortable with, what’s a no for you, and what you might be willing to try out."

    idgafatthispoint

    10. "Plan for the first date to be short and sweet. An hour is a good amount of time. That way, if either one of you is not feeling the vibe, the date can come to a natural conclusion. If you hit it off, you can plan the second date soon or even just keep the first one going!"

    Man saying, "Nice; good call"
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    11. "Even after you've been dating a while, don't let your relationship become routine. Do new things and take special care to compliment each other. Stay curious about their world, and when you disagree, don't try to convince them — just listen."

    mermaid04

    12. "Don’t ever make assumptions about contraception and/or protection. However consenting adults want to approach it is their business, but don’t just assume anyone is getting tested regularly, on the Pill, etc. Have that conversation beforehand!"

    hw9518

    13. "Be honest when something isn’t working for you, no matter how early or late it is in the relationship."

    Man saying "Honesty is the best policy"

    14. "It's very important to be up front if you have kids. Not everyone wants to date someone with kids (and that's totally okay and reasonable), so it's best to be honest right away, before your first date, if you are a parent."

    anniek18

    15. "Try to split costs. If he buys the tickets to a movie, you buy the popcorn. Be willing to invite someone and pay for the whole date part of the time. This helps with balance, and no one feels like they 'owe' the other person for paying."

    nikinm13

    16. "Don't assume there will be sex at any point. You aren't owed sex because you paid for a date."

    Woman with an outstretched hand agreeing

    17. "Send a follow-up text after a date. If I don’t get one, I’ll think it didn't go well."

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    18. "Don't try to change people. If you push them to change, they often start to resent you."

    deebee1975

    19. Finally: "Don't start dating until you learn to be happy by yourself, too. People often see their partner as their 'missing half' rather than an extension and become dependent on them to be happy."

    Women agreeing excitedly, yelling "Yes"

    What's an unwritten rule of dating that you think everyone needs to know? Drop it in the comments below!

    Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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