I am a mormon grandmother of a gay grandson…I understand the pain you are all feeling … what I do not understand is the hatred that many of you have towards the church. Other than prop 8 and the churches teachings concerning homosexuality … they have come a very long way towards accepting the gay members and teaching the members the higher law to love one another as the Savior loves each of us. I think it is not producive to continue to criticize and to spew hate towards a church that only wishes to reach out within the confines of the commandments. You have every right to disagree but please allow us the same respect that you wish us to show to you for you to show to us. Do you honestly think anything will change when there is discord. The church will never be 100% supportive of a lifestyle that they feel is against church doctrine…just accept that fact and be respectful. If we are to come to an understanding and an acceptance of one another than we need to accept what will not change within the church and move on.
This is very hurtful and unfortunate that he cannot at this time show his son love. We need to be understanding of the dads feelings and allow him the opportunity to process what his son told him The father may never come around and may choose to never have a relationship with his son. We need to stop judging on both sides of the issue. It is not productive to call people hypocritical anymore than it is productive to call someone a homo etc. It is time for tolerance and acceptance that not everyone is going to be on board with the gay issue. In order to receive love and acceptance we need to offer love and acceptance even if others choose not to accept it…I am a grandmother of a gay grandson. I am working through my own feelings and how to best love and support him in his journey. I am also a Mormon I donot judge and I donot want to be judged. I am on my own journey and I am learning about belmg supportive, nonjudgemental and to just love…but on the other hand I do subscribe to this quote and expect others to be tolerant of me “Tolerance obviously requires a non-contentious manner of relating toward one anotherâ€™s differences. But tolerance does not require abandoning oneâ€™s standards or oneâ€™s opinions on political or public policy choices. Tolerance is a way of reacting to diversity, not a command to insulate it from examination.” -Dallin H. Oak It is time for both sides to put down the weapons and to be loving and kind.