Response to A User’s Guide To My Stupid Name:
Ahh my comment just got eaten. Long story short, I’m white/native to the country I live in and my boyfriend is half Arab. He has a bog standard Arabic name, not difficult for English speakers to pronounce, but many (if not the majority) of his friends pronounce it ‘wrong’. On our third date, I drummed up the courage to ask him ‘I’ve heard your friends say your name one way, and you say it a different way - what way should I say it?’. He told me how his family say it, so that’s how I say it. He says it doesn’t bother him at all when people say it ‘wrong’, but it was really important for me not to be lazy, for want of a better word. I know it’s not quite the same thing but I hope you have spoken to your boyfriend about it. If I was in his position, I would feel really special that you were sharing this with me. (This was definitely worded better in my original comment.)
I feel like Hedwig is a bit more complex than a cisgender male playing a trans female. To me, the whole point of H&TAI is that Hedwig struggles with her (it’s the pronoun used in the film, so I’ll use it here) gender identity - she was a cisgender gay male who agreed (barely) to have her penis removed so that she could marry her boyfriend and leave her oppressive country. Had that situation not arisen, I feel like Hansel would have been happy to continue to live as Hansel. To me, it would be irresponsible to have a trans woman playing this role. It seems like Hedwig tries to embrace her circumstances, rather than ever having actively wanting to go down that road. Full disclosure: I’m a cis female so my interpretation of this is simply that - my interpretation.
Yes, yes you are.
Totally agree - it’s the complete opposite to the spirit of everything else in Parks & Rec. Makes me genuinely sad, because bullying is never okay :(
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