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26 Struggles Of Being The Token Black Girl

Please, stop asking me to teach you how to twerk.

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1. Shopping for makeup with your white friends can be a pretty painful experience.

2. And doing each other's makeup is always a bit awkward when no one knows what to do with your face.

Wearing foundation four shades lighter than your skin tone is *not* a good look.
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Wearing foundation four shades lighter than your skin tone is *not* a good look.

3. People are stunned every time you change your hair.

4. And you've definitely been asked what happens when your hair gets wet.

5. Which, of course, leads people to touch it.

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6. You feel a strong connection to any token black girl on TV.

RIP the character that was Dionne Davenport.
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RIP the character that was Dionne Davenport.

7. So you're always rooting for the one black girl in reality shows like The Bachelor.

(until she's inevitably sent home by the third episode)
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(until she's inevitably sent home by the third episode)

8. All your group pictures kind of have a theme.

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9. Literally. Every. Picture.

10. Your friends can never seem to understand why you can't sleep over at their house without having your trusty headscarf with you.

There's no way you're messing up your hair when you just got it done.
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There's no way you're messing up your hair when you just got it done.

11. Or why your hair appointments take an entire day.

12. People assume a group is automatically diverse just because you (and you alone) are there.

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13. And it can be pretty difficult explaining why your parents won’t let you out to that party.

14. It seems to be an unwritten rule that you can twerk.

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"But...but...I can't even twerk," you think, desperately, as your audience await their first twerking lesson.

15. And it's assumed that you have all the answers to every black question.

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16. You’re always nervous about asserting yourself because it’s often misinterpreted as being “aggressive” or “angry.”

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17. And you've been called a "diva" before.

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Or any other bullshit variation of "angry black girl".

18. People have tried to speak to you in language that you yourself don't even understand.

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You don't have to greet me with a special handshake or refer to me as your "homie", my actual name will do.

19. And you've been asked some silly questions regarding your skin colour.

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20. It can be a tad ~uncomfortable~ when songs like "N*ggas In Paris" come on.

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"Great, now I have to keep watch and see if any of my white friends say the N-word, fanfuckingtastic."

21. You're so used to being the token black girl that you've felt out of touch in a group full of black people.

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Because now you're "too white" for your black friends and "too black" for your white friends.

22. And you know what it's like to be labelled an "oreo" or "coconut".

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(That means to be "black on the outside, white on the inside".)

23. Sometimes you feel as though your environment is subconsciously rubbing off on you.

24. And you've been prone to an identity crisis or two.

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25. But despite the trials and tribulations that come along with being the token black girl.

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And there are a lot.

26. You still manage to keep it cute, and stay flawless.

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The struggle is real.