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When "getting comfortable with your partner" means seeing you in your headscarf.
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When you ignore all the rules of hair products because you know your hair better than anyone else.
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When makeup brands seem to forget you exist.
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And your makeup seems to be a mystery to most people.
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Including the makeup artist.
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When it feels like your hairdresser has been braiding the same section of your hair for several hours.
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Which is why it usually takes an entire day.
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When you've become the master of frequent reinvention.
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And know how to adapt to every situation.
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When your bonnet betrays you.
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And you're in no mood for any comments on your hair.
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When you catch yourself falling into Eurocentrism.
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And the intersectionality struggle gets way too real.
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When you join the natural hair movement and have to buy a whole new set of products.
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When things aren't as "all-inclusive" as they claim they are.
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When you have a hair malfunction and your friends have your back.
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When it's time to get your hair done for school.
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When your mum did your hair and it was anything but pleasant.
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And for some reason your entire face got a brushing too.
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When people assume the fetishising of your skin is a compliment.
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And when certain remarks are red flags to abort the mission completely.