To whom it may concern.
You may be sitting alone in your room right now. You probably have either a tub of ice cream in your lap or you are listening to a sad playlist on Spotify. Trust me when I say that I, and almost every other girl, has been there. Unfortunately, break-ups are never easy. If break-ups were easy or fun, there wouldn't be much of a point in dating. I say all of this to tell you one thing: broken hearts are a good thing.
If you are like me, you're guarded. You don't wear your heart on your sleeve, you don't always express exactly what you are thinking, and you are slow opening up to guys that could be potential dating partners. It isn't because you are a prude or because you aren't interested in dating. It's because letting someone in means something. Kissing means something. Sex means something.
If you are also like me, you let that guard down once before. You made the mistake of letting someone in who didn't deserve to know all of the awesome things about you. You let someone in who didn't respect you or your ideals. And you let someone in who was only in it for one thing. You made excuses, you justified his actions and yours, and you sold yourself short, over and over again. At the end of it all, you blamed yourself for your heartache and you wondered what you did to mess it all up. You tried your best to mend your broken heart but instead of realizing how selfish and insecure he was, you shamed yourself and rejected the reflection in the mirror.
Well, back to my case and point. Broken hearts are a good thing. It sounds dumb and cliché, and maybe your mom already drove this point home to you. But it couldn't be more true. The fact of the matter is that a broken heart teaches you more than any text book or lecture ever could. A broken heart teaches you what you want and don't want in a relationship. It shows you what kind of partner you are looking for. It helps you grow stronger and to become a better version of who you were before. But perhaps my favorite thing about a broken heart is that when the right man comes along, a broken heart will help you be able to recognize him. A broken heart knows exactly what she is looking for in a partner. A broken heart doesn't settle for anything less than respect, love, and commitment.
So I encourage you to eat your ice cream. Cry your ugliest tears, scream into your pillow, play all of your saddest songs, and jump up and down on your bed until you can't feel your legs. After all of that, dry your tears, look in the mirror and say, "I am beautiful." Because you are. Every single woman out there is unique, beautiful, and so incredible. So your heart is broken. Pick up the pieces, dust yourself off, and keep your head high. Don't let some selfish guy dampen how incredible you are. Instead, become a better version of who you were before and never settle for anything less than you deserve.