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    17 Worst Bits Of Advice Rom-Coms Have Given Us In The Last 25 Years

    Despite what we've been told countless times, lying and stalking are, in fact, never okay!

    Facts are facts, internet: A lot of rom-coms give bad relationship advice.

    If you grew up watching rom-coms in the 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s, there's a good chance you had to unlearn certain less-than-stellar behaviors as you got older and began dating in the real world.

    Here is some of the worst love and relationship advice that rom-coms have given us over the last 25 years, along with the movies** that made us believe it.

    **Nobody is telling you not to enjoy these movies! Just, y'know, take their teachings with a grain of salt.

    1. Casual sexual harassment and negging are both valid forms of flirting.

    2. Straight men and women can’t be friends.

    Scene from When Harry Met Sally

    3. It doesn't matter how terrible either you or your partner is to other people, as long as you're not terrible to each other. Friends and family be damned if it's in the name of true love.

    Scene of main character pining after her friend's fiancé from Something Borrowed

    4. Lying is totally cool as long as it's in the name of getting someone to fall (or stay) in love with you.

    Catfishing scene from Sierra Burgess is a Big Loser

    5. Stalking is also totally cool, as long as it's in the noble pursuit of love.

    Ted and Mary talking in There's Something About Mary

    6. Don’t listen to someone when they tell you they aren’t interested; they just haven't realized they love you yet.

    Argument scene from 500 Days of Summer

    7. Liking someone and being nice to them entitles you to their affection.

    Breakfast scene from 50 First Dates

    8. All people fall into clear and distinct "types," and sweeping generalizations about gender are never wrong.

    Generalizations made in The Ugly Truth and Think Like A Man

    9. There is a deadline by which you need to have found true love and happiness.

    Diary writing scene from Bridget Jones's Diary

    10. You should always confess your feelings to someone, no matter how it might affect them.

    Sign scene from Love Actually

    11. You can (and should!) forgive anything your S.O. does to you, especially if they apologize in the form of a grand romantic gesture.

    Patrick give Kat a guitar as an apology in 10 Things I Hate About You

    12. Changing how you look will undoubtedly have a positive effect on your love life.

    Bianca before and after her makeover in The DUFF

    13. If someone is your complete opposite on paper and you hate each other at first, you'll probably fall in love before long.

    Main characters arguing in The Proposal

    14. A good strategy to find your soulmate is to start a fake relationship with them, because it will lead you to fall in love with each other instead of the people you are trying to impress/make jealous.

    Peter and Lara Jean sign their fake relationship contract in To All The Boys I've Loved Before

    15. All it takes is the right partner to make a cynical or noncommittal person believe in love and jump into a happy relationship.

    Amy Schumer and Bill Hader in Trainwreck

    16. Men only like smart, driven, and outspoken women once they've softened their edges a little bit.

    Gabriel Union as Eva in Deliver Us From Eva

    17. And finally, you are definitely in love with your best friend and just haven't realized it yet.

    Jenna and Matt as kids and adults in 13 Going on 30