I think Jesslev3 is using the ‘walk a mile’ adage here. If the person who wrote the letter had to ‘walk a mile in their (the grandmother of the autistic child) shoes’, they might think differently. However, I’d be more worried about the poor child she had than her. If she hates the neighbor’s autistic child, think about how she would treat her own! But I understand what Jesslev3 is saying and take no offense to it and I do have a child with disabilities.