25 Movies With Scenes People Think Are Problematic As Hell

Wow, have these scenes not stood the test of time.

We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community which movies were actually really problematic. Here are some of the best responses.

1. The premise of Grease being "change everything about yourself for a man."

Paramount Pictures

"I love Grease, but man is it a mess! The lesson is basically to change everything about yourself to get the guy who was a total dick to you."

—carat436a86d05

"The whole meaning of the movie is that in order to date a guy you like, you have to completely change your appearance and personality to suit them. It's so fucking wrong."

—Maiaeve

2. And let's not forget this line.

Paramount Pictures

"The 'did she put up a fight?' line in Grease. Always makes me cringe."

—ashleyz464d0d7d0

"This line is literally describing rape!"

—jabberbox1234

3. The repeated body-shaming of Natalie in Love Actually.

Universal Pictures

"In what world is it OK to refer to your coworker – or anyone, for that matter – as "the chubby girl,' and say she has 'huge thighs'?! I rewatched it recently and her whole storyline infuriates me every time. She's gorgeous!"

—lisab42acd6b0a

4. And also this scene, which some people think is cute while others think it's creepy.

Universal Pictures

"It's just peak nice-guy manipulation under the guise of ~romance.~"

—Kelly Shipper, Facebook

5. The anti-trans moment in Ace Ventura: Pet Detective.

Warner Bros

Warner Bros

"Not only is the main villain forcibly revealed to be a transgender woman with a penis, every man who had previously been interested in or intimate with her began throwing up as if it was the most disgusting thing in the world. It's also revealed that the villain transitioned to avoid being caught for her crimes – a reason for which no one would transition – reinforcing the myth that transgender people are in some way deceitful."

—justinea4f6d1b8aa

"Movies that depict trans characters as plot twists and villains with mental health disorders are ignorant AF."

—suzannel46f36ed04

6. And the anti-trans aspects in The Silence of the Lambs.

Orion Pictures

"I loved the movie when I was younger, but as a trans person watching it again as an adult, I couldn't believe how blatantly transphobic is was. It demonised trans people by making the serial killer someone who presented femininely, wanted to be seen by others as a woman, and was therefore obsessed with stealing the skin of random women. Way far beyond fucked up!"

—Mkat6614

7. This scene in The Wedding Crashers, where Vince Vaughn's character is forced to have sex by his girlfriend.

New Line Cinemas

New Line Cinemas

New Line Cinemas

"There's a scene in The Wedding Crashers where Vince Vaughn's character wakes up in the middle of the night to his girlfriend tying his arms and legs to the bedposts with rope. She goes on to forcibly have sex with him whilst he tells her to stop numerous times. He later goes on to tell his friend that he was raped, to the friend's amusement. Using a woman forcing a man to have sex with her under duress as a comedy trope is unacceptable."

—zoeredhart

8. The garbage, unsupportive boyfriend in The Devil Wears Prada.

20th Century Fox

20th Century Fox

"It's a great movie, apart from the boyfriend. He's an unsupportive jerk. Apparently succeeding in your career is a bad thing. Yes, her boss is terrible but she only needed to put in a year to get to the next level. And her boyfriend couldn't even have Andy's back. She should have dumped him and moved on."

—stacis494deef03

9. The racism in Dumbo.

Disney

Disney

"I watched Dumbo again when I became a mom, and it is racist AF. In the circus-building song, 'Happy-Hearted Roustabouts,' the workers are African-American and sing lines such as: 'We never learned to read or write,' 'We don't know when we get our pay/and when we do, we throw our pay away,' and 'Grab that rope you hairy ape.' (There are no apes on screen during that line, FYI.) SO. MESSED. UP."

—samantham49

10. Which is never more apparent than when the crows appear.

Disney

"I don't even know where to begin with how racist these characters are. They're called 'The Jim Crows' for Pete's sake!"

—caitlinm18

11. And this racist scene in The Aristocrats, too.

Disney

"The Siamese cat in The Aristocats playing the piano with chopsticks and singing 'Shanghai Hong Kong' made my jaw drop. That was bad."

—malinrh11

12. The fact that Revenge of the Nerds is packed with both sexual assault and murder.

20th Century Fox

"I loved this series as a kid and even had a themed birthday party one year. But almost all the antics those nerds pulled were either straight-up assault or attempted murder. And having sex with someone when you're wearing a mask and they believe you're their significant other is rape by deception."

—hollycc

13. The eating disorder jokes in Miss Congeniality.

Warner Bros

"It has a ton of eating disorder jokes and comments that just get brushed off and accepted. "

—laurenk45a0f85f7

"It's absolutely disgusting for moves to joke about mental illness."

—lindseys12

14. The depressing message of The Little Mermaid.

Disney

"She sold her voice for a guy she literally just met and knew that if she won his heart, she would never see her family or Atlantica ever again."

—xxcrimsonquillxx

"Ariel basically has to use her body – since she can't use her voice – to get Prince Eric to fall in love with her. It's practically teaching kids that using your body instead of your intelligence and words is how you get a man to love you. Um, what?!"

—Lauren Poland

15. This scene in Rocky that's just straight-up sexual harassment.

Chartoff-Winkler Productions

Chartoff-Winkler Productions

Chartoff-Winkler Productions

"The scene where Rocky is super rapey to Adrian and plays into the 'just exhaust her until she says yes' trope. She repeatedly says 'no' to him, before he's rewarded with her falling for him in the end."

—bailreckin

16. As well as this moment in The Devil Wears Prada which plays into the same trope.

20th Century Fox

Andy Sachs: It's. So. Beautiful.

[Christian waits at the other side of the pole and surprises Andy by suddenly kissing her]

Andy Sachs: I can't do this...

[he kisses her again]

Andy Sachs: Nate and I only split up a few days ago...

[he kisses her again]

Andy Sachs: Oh... I've had too much wine and my heari- visio-... judgement is impaired...

[he kisses her again]

Andy Sachs: I barely know you and I'm in a strange city...

[he kisses her again]

Andy Sachs: I... I'm out of excuses.

Christian Thompson: [smiles] Thank God.

[he kisses her once more]

"JFC. That is so far beyond not okay that it made me scream at the TV when I saw it."

—frontrow333

17. Not to mention the sexual harassment in The Breakfast Club.

Universal Pictures

Universal Pictures

Universal Pictures

"It always bothered me how shitty Bender was towards Claire in The Breakfast Club. He literally put his face into her crotch without her consent, yet she still ends up with him? What the fuck?"

—sarahalarid93

18. The treatment of BDSM in Fifty Shades of Grey.

Universal Pictures

"It presents BDSM as something you just...do. People watch it and think: 'Oh, that looks fun, let's do this!' But what they don't realise is that there's a lot of preparation, talking and trust involved. You have to talk with your partner about what you/they are comfortable with, discuss no-gos, boundaries and safe words. Movies like Fifty Shades just show a completely unrealistic picture of BDSM."

—m4b241b4ed

19. The many layers of fuckery in Overboard.

MGM

"The original Overboard and all of its remakes are about a spoiled heiress with a head injury who is kidnapped, brainwashed and assaulted. The 2018 film switches genders trying to fly the sexism under the radar but it's just as bad when it happens to the guy!"

—alexandrakaash

20. The scene in 16 Candles where a drunk and unconscious woman is offered up to another guy by her boyfriend.

Universal Pictures

"I need to talk about how in Sixteen Candles, Jake gave his car to a geek to take home his very drunk and unconscious girlfriend to do whatever he wanted with her – obviously meaning he would be sexually violating her."

—neemakat

"Remember when Jake Ryan 'traded' his drunk girlfriend, Caroline, to Ted? And then Ted rapes Caroline? Of course you don't, because it was the '80s where apparently blackout drunk people could consent to sex with someone they'd never met."

—kthewire

21. Pretty much the entirety of Thoroughly Modern Millie.

Universal Pictures

"I love the cast (Julie Andrews, Mary Tyler Moore, and Carol Channing) but the film is extremely racist and sexist. The villain is in yellowface, the plot revolves around Asians kidnapping white women for sex and the final showdown is one big slapstick mess where the main white characters laugh while taking out all the 'dumb and incompetent' Asian characters. As if that wasn't enough, the other main plot-point is that Millie is only working so that she can land a rich husband – because that is what every woman wants."

—dsnowdon6411

22. The scene in Top Gun where Tom Cruise's character follows Kelly McGillis into the ladies' bathroom to "warn" her off another guy.

Paramount Pictures

Paramount Pictures

"There's a scene where Tom Cruise follows Kelly McGillis into the bathroom, because apparently nothing screams romance like following a woman into the ladies room in order to convince her to sleep with you. It's not romantic or cute, but genuinely scary."

—rachelk4b0a45da3

23. The sword-fight scene in The Mask of Zorro.

Amblin Entertainment

"There's a scene where Antonio Banderas's character runs into the stable to hide and finds Catherine Zeta Jones's character. When he first sees her, he looks her up and down like she's a piece of meat instead of a person. Then he cuts her clothes with his sword in order to expose more skin, and when he has her cornered, tells her to stand still only to use his sword to slice her top causing it to fall to the ground. The only reason why viewers don't see her breasts is because of her long, conveniently placed hair."

—lightheart16

24. The concept of Passengers being both creepy and sexist.

Village Roadshow Pictures

"He woke her up and sentenced her to a miserable life and death like his, all because he was lonely and she was cute."

—PHM8

25. And, finally, the ferris wheel scene in The Notebook.

New Line Cinema

New Line Cinema

"The carnival scene in The Notebook where Ryan Gosling's character basically coerces Rachel McAdams' character into dating him by hanging from a ferris wheel and threatening suicide or self-injury if she doesn't go out with him. It ruined the whole movie for me."

—jessh45ecc9c7d

Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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