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    23 Sex Toys That Queer Reviewers Swear By

    Here's to all the waves of pleasure you'll have with these tried and true finds.

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    1. A clit-sucking vibrator that'll take anyone who uses it on a magic sucky ride.

    reviewer holding the sex toy with an O-shape opening for the sucking vibrations emit from

    Promising review: "I am a queer Black woman who enjoys sucking stimulation on most parts of my body, including my clit. Receiving oral has ALWAYS been an issue because when you tell them to 'suck,' they think that you’re telling them to 'lick and suck.' NO. Just suck. In summary, I have NEVER came from oral.

    The good thing about this device is that it knows how to follow directions. The first sensation I felt on the lowest setting could be compared to someone placing their lips around your clit and gently breathing on it. The second setting was more concentrated sucking, very gently as if they were trying to make love to my clit. The third setting was more direct. By the fourth setting, I could feel the distinct sucking on my clit and the best way to describe it would be if someone was out to prove to me that they were the best head giver I was going to come across. By the fifth setting (and keep in mind, I am USED to having my clit sucked on and can only cum by that sensation) I didn’t realize that I was repeating 'Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God…' Imagine your spot getting hit and you tell them 'right there' and they ACTUALLY stay right there!

    The bad thing about this device is the fact that you may have a heart attack using this device because it will blow your MIND!!!! Also, if you do not like any sucking action on your clit, this is not for you... though I suppose you could also use it as a mini vacuum if you wanted to clean out your purse or something." —Sho Dan

    Get it from Amazon for $29.95.

    2. A cordless Hitachi wand (truly the stuff of legend) with eight super powerful vibration patterns eager to please.

    the wand with a long handle, visible buttons, and large tennis ball-size vibrating part at the end

    Promising review: "Basically this is all you need in your sexy drawer of magic tricks. I come from having my original Hitachi for 10 years and had to buy two times because I would always eventually wear the cord too much. The rechargeable has just the same amount of power my Original had, if not maybe more!

    I say it's a love-hate relationship only because nothing else compares to it. I am a big sex toy kind of girl and I am always trying the newest toys but always eventually go grab my Wand because I know the instant I turn it on I will climax. But I won't stop trying! :) This is well worth the price. you won't regret it!" —Toys'R'N'Us, a Bisexual Single Female

    Get it from Lovehoney for $149.99.

    3. A small flashy butt plug that'll be perfect for beginners — or just slideeee right in for those with butt play experience.

    silver tone small butt plug with a pink jewel accent on it

    Promising review: "This is NOT meant for anyone who has any tolerance or experience when it comes to anal penetration at all. I had one of the tiny packets of free lube they give out in the gayborhood, but as a gay man I needed no lube for this. I just stuffed it in without effort or preparation. You can barely feel it inside you (it feels like you mildly need to go number 2, not to be gross), but I am guessing for someone who has never put anything up there that this would be very exciting. It's nice to have while orgasming, as you can feel it a little then. The jewel is adorable, and the color is great — I got the cobalt blue and it's even more striking than the picture. Considering this cost me $6, I love it, especially since I can wear it all the time, and *I* know it's there, which is exciting in itself. I am going to buy the large size for sure." —Mitch Please

    Get it from Amazon for $5.98 (available in 11 colors).

    4. A water-based lube to make thrusting, slipping in, and all the other action verbs you get up to a bit smoother.

    hand holding the bottle of lube

    Promising review: "I strongly recommend this product. The second I drizzled it onto my shaft I could feel that the quality was better than lubes I have purchased in the past. My boyfriend and I also noticed that I did not have to pull out of his anus mid-thrust to add lube as often as in the past, making our love-making even more passionate then usual. Thank you #LubeLife! You've created two very happy gays!" —D

    Get it from Amazon for $8.49+ (available in four flavors, four sizes).

    5. Or a silicone-based lube that won't feel sticky as it lasts nearly as long as you. (Or longer? Whatever, just have fun!)

    the bottle of lube

    Promising review: "This lube is great, My boyfriend and I had gay sex with it like a million times and went through 16 ounces of it in like three weeks. It lubricated everything and there was penetration like you wouldn't believe! You should get it." —D. M

    Get it from Amazon for $11.77+ (available in nine sizes).

    6. A soft but firm dildo with a suction cup to keep it steady on surfaces while you go to work on it.,

    Promising review: "The suction cup on this thing does not play. I bought it for my husband (gay couple). First thing he did was take it to the wall and it hung there for quite some time. It doesn’t smell super chemically, and that’s really nice. If feels very durable, and it’s really soft to the touch. It’s firm enough to hold his posture when penetrating, it’s an overall fun toy." —crobinson

    Get it from Amazon for $13.69 (available in three colors).

    7. Or a veinier(?!) 9-inch dildo with a strong suction base that can also work in an O-ring for some strap-on play.

    product pic of the light skin tone realistic looking dildo

    Promising review: "Takes a while for the rubber smell to go away but otherwise a nice size that is easy to handle. It stays where you put it as long as it is secure and if you are gay or bi (like me) it makes a nice stand-in for when you can't get the real thing." —Richard

    Get it from Amazon for $16.99.

    8. A flexible silicone vibrator that'll easily bend to the whims your vibes of yore would never. Plus it's waterproof!,

    Has 9 vibration patterns, a magnetic USB charger.

    Promising review: "I purchased this vibrator on a 'impulse buy' and man am I happy that I did. I am a gay man and usually don’t purchase these types of tools but when I read the reviews and saw the functionality and the magnetic charging option I decided to give it a go. The price is fantastic, I could see myself paying $60–80 for this in an adult toy store. This thing has so many different vibrational options and I was shocked to see that the whole vibrator vibrated and not just the tip or the base. If you’re looking for a toy that can be concealed easily this is your guy." —Brayden Conover

    Get it from Amazon for $21.69.

    9. A strap-on with a dildo and lube that reviewers with strap-on experience say is really comfy. Go ahead and give it a spin.

    Promising review: "I have just recently ordered the wearable strap on with included dildo I am INCREDIBLY satisfied with the product. As a queer femme lesbian, comfortable strap-ons that I feel good in can be hard to find. In the past, I've struggled with finding both quality and cost efficient options. The straps on other strap-ons that I have used have stretched out or not been able to hold securely but this is perfect for me. I love the detail on the back too. It feels sturdy but looks sexy and feminine." —Julia Taylor-Brown

    Get it from Amazon for $24.99.

    10. A four-piece butt plug training set in graduated sizes so you can work your way up to the top (or in this case, bottom).

    product shot of four purple anal plugs, douche, and lube

    The set also includes a douche and tube of lubricant.

    Promising review: "I was shocked with this. I am a gay man who decided I would try and get into bottoming, and I got a dildo and it was just meh. But these were great. I was nice and shocked. Just having them in was nice and felt good." —Damion Q.

    Get them from Amazon for $15.99+ (available in purple or black).

    11. Or a three-piece butt plug training kit with an easier-to-grab flared base, which will be less intimidating for beginners or especially handy for people who have limited dexterity.

    the three trainers

    Promising review: "This is a well-made product. I’m a gay top learning to diversify as part of my journey of learning to love myself. I’ve only used the small plug, so I may need to amend this when I graduate up. It is made of silicone rubber, which mimics an erect penis by being firm, but by being pliable. However the design makes it a great toy because the base is narrower than the top, keeping your sphincter from being stretched uncomfortably. It is easy to clean, which is very important.

    I have a few words of advice for a new user. 1. Buy a water-based lube and a toy cleanser with this product. 2. Learn sphincter relaxation strategies to aid in insertion. 3. Learn the proper way to insert it so it isn’t uncomfortable and doesn’t tear delicate anal tissue. To insert it, I lie on my side, bring my knees as close to my chest as I can, lube it and my sphincter, do a sphincter relaxation technique, and SLOWLY insert. I left mine in while I slept. In the morning, I SLOWLY removed it, cleaned it with the toy cleanser, let it air dry, and put it away." —Michael White

    Get them from Amazon for $16.99.

    12. A strap-on harness with lots of rave reviews.

    mannequin with the strap-on harness

    Promising review: "I’m a trans guy with a trans girlfriend, so sex is kind of complicated. Our first attempts with a strap have been awful, I’m a dysphoric clumsy mess in a run-of-the-mill harness, since they typically sit uncomfortably low on your waist to look better, and offer very little 'control,' so to speak, over the toy.

    This harness changed everything. I found other trans men praising it on Reddit, and figured she deserved a Christmas present, so I ordered it. When I tried it on with one of our toys, I was astonished at how comfortable it was to wear, and how little it slipped. The toy we put inside it held right against me too, meaning much smaller movements offered much more control over the toy then before (I.e. it didn’t feel like navigating a claw machine at a rundown arcade).

    Our first attempt with the Joque harness was a drastic difference from our previous attempts with strap ons, she was beyond satisfied, and I felt incredibly confident. FTM Approved." —Sam

    Get it from Lovehoney for $149.99.

    13. Or an intersex pride thigh harness with three O-ring options for toys that'll be especially welcome for those with limited mobility. Plus the seller can make it with handle holds for easier accessibility if you just ask when ordering!

    person wearing black pants with purple and yellow thigh harness on top with an O-ring for dildos or other toys with flared bases
    Activestproject / Etsy

    Promising review: "This is such a perfect harness! I'm intersex, queer, fat, and disabled, having another way to have sex with my partners is important. I can't wait for quarantine to be over so I can put it to use! Thank you so much for making sex easier for me." —lasoefjie

    Get it from Activestproject on Etsy for $28.80 (available in three harness sizes with three O-ring sizes).

    FYI, this Etsy shop specializes in harnesses so you're bound (hehe) to find several good options.

    14. A BJ dildo made for sucking with a funnel-shaped base to keep it in place in any O-rings.

    five different colors of realistic looking dildos with a flared base
    FormFunctionLLC / Etsy

    Promising review: "AMAZING TOY THANK YOU!! My boyfriend (FTM) loves it and says it makes sex way more comfortable for him in general. Suction works VERY well for blowjobs and also works great for penetration. So impressed by this product. The lightest beige color is still a little dark for our taste (doesn't quite match my boyfriend's fair skin tone) but it's barely noticeable and still works ;) Fast shipping considering COVID delays, discreet packaging. Great experience!" —Frederique

    Get it from FormFunctionLLC on Etsy for $84 (available in four colors).

    FYI, this shop is practically BURSTING with dildos so you're sure to find one.

    15. A Jack 2-in-1 stroker made of super soft silicone with a ribbed stroker cavity to create allll kinds of feel-good suction for anatomy that's at least 1/2-inch in diameter.

    New York Toy Collective

    Promising review: "Amazing product. Soft to the touch. Love the design, it’s sort of a half-erect shape. A bit smaller than I expected, I feel like a Greek statue while wearing it, in a good way. 🙂

    I’m pre-T, but I still managed to get some suction by pressing it against my own bits and then 'pumping' on the shaft, creating a vacuum. Rubbing the balls against my own junk also helped to create additional sensation. Due to its small size, I found Jack absolutely great for bottoming. Doesn’t get in the way while still helping me to cope with my bottom dysphoria amazingly well. Haven’t tried packing with it yet, but it’s certainly not too big or bulgy and I gotta admit I find it very cute to wear. Small dicks deserve more love. <3" —Summer

    Get it from New York Toy Collective for $59 (available in four colors).

    16. A *waterproof* inflatable anal plug so you can get to your right amount of full.

    the black anal pump with the part you insert, a tube, and then the balloon you squeeze

    Promising review: "You have got to try this one!! Wow! As a bi man I love anal play. Have for a long long time and used many toys, even regular plugs, but never an inflatable one. When we got this my wife opened it first, she took me straight to the bedroom. She has a thing for having control over guys' asses. Oh my gosh! With a pump it is ready for insertion. I think even a beginner could accommodate it with lube, of course. And the size it gets is totally up to you. And the sensation is equal to the size you make it. Unfortunately for me, or maybe fortunately, I was taken to the limits. And what a glorious way to be made so weak in the legs you can't stand, or think straight, or be calm. To say this toy is fun doesn't even cover it. All I can say is buy one. Even if you don't have a freaky woman to assault your ass I am pretty sure you're going to find yourself going back to it again and again all on your own! You can't resist it!!" —Amazon Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $16.69.

    17. Color-changing nipple suckers that'll turn from purple to pink as things really heat up. Reviewers say they're great on nipples (obvs) but also create some great suction on the clit. We love a multi-use item!

    person putting nipple sucker into water showing how it changes from purple to pink when it gets hotter

    Promising review: "I bought these for solo play, but I can definitely envision using these with a partner. The color changing element is fun, the dark purple giving way to basically neon pink with the addition of heat. I find a generous serving of lube really gets these guys attached to you and creates a delectable amount of suction.

    I like light bondage, so pairing these with restraints and a blindfold is absolutely incredible and I would recommend them to singletons and couples alike." —RhiRhi11, a Bisexual Single Female

    Get them from Lovehoney for $14.99.

    18. An 18-inch double-ended dildo with a realistic feel that'll bend to your (and/or your partner's) whims for a ~flexible~ option that'll work for solo double penetration or a shared round of pleasure. As they say, sharing is caring!

    person holding a purple jelly look long double ended dildo

    Has a squishy yet firm jelly texture.

    Promising review: "I have been after this double dildo for the longest time and I'm so glad I finally got it. My partner is FTM trans so I thought this would be a good way for us to have some fun together.

    The toy is a great size both length and girth and is super flexible. If I have any issue with this toy it would be that it could be considered a bit too flexible but it doesn't bother me at all." —Cat105

    Get it from Lovehoney for $39.99.

    19. Or a ~flexible~ double-ended dildo that's 22 inches long with realistic veins for some extra sensation, meaning it'll be a fave for solo dual plugging or with your bae.

    model&#x27;s hand holding the long realistic looking dildo with it bent in half in one hand to show its flexibility

    Promising review: "On receiving our exciting parcel I must admit that the sheer size of this thing was kind of scary! We are just branching out into the world of double dildos and didn’t realize these things were so big. We couldn’t wait to get stuck in (pun very much intended) and what a delightful experience it was too. The size and flexibility of it meant that we could be adventurous with our positions. We love the tapered end, and of course the bigger one. We had no idea that this amazing toy could create such pleasure." —Donna73, a Gay Engaged Female

    Get it from Lovehoney for $49.99.

    FYI, if you wanna start out with a shorter or different design, check out more double-ended dildos on Lovehoney. They have quite the selection!

    20. A remote-control massager with a penis ring and 10 vibration speeds that'll help access a P-spot or other tender inner parts that deserve a bit more attention. Oh, and it's waterproof!


    Promising review: "This really hit the spot, if you know what I mean. :P All jokes aside, I really love it despite a couple of minor drawbacks. Here is a list of the good and the bad, from a gay man’s perspective:

    The Good:

    • 10 different vibration settings that really do “hit” different. My personal favorite is the third, strongest of the consistent vibrations.

    • Not too large but it isn’t so small that it can’t stimulate me. My partner and I both top, so we have to take it easy whenever we put anything in there. This is just the right size for that.

    • The cock ring helps keep me engorged so that everything looks nice and attractive.

    • The remote works and is easy to figure out.

    The Bad

    • There are very small ridges on the part that you insert. They are so small that I wouldn’t have noticed them. As someone who doesn’t normally insert anything in that hole, however, I definitely noticed them when I was sliding it in. My best advice is to use a great lube and get it in there slowly.

    • While it does feel amazing, it is not long enough to reach my prostate. I can feel the vibrations in the area between my balls and my ass, and it feels excellent, but we both really wanted something for the prostate. Still, if you like having that area stimulated like I do, this is not such a bad thing." —Nathan Gravitt

    Get it from Amazon for $25.99.

    21. A packer pair of briefs to help create a natural bulge any ole time BUT can also be used for a strap-on experience. A double panel inside the boxer pouch even lets you use a double-ended dildo!

    manequin with boxer briefs on that have an O ring for placing a dildo or vibrator

    The breathable cotton boxer shorts have a built-in 1.5 inch O-ring for comfortable packing and strap-on play, has an internal strap that supports a packer or toy for slip-free wear, and two hidden vibe pockets.

    Promising review: "I love wearing my harness shorts. Soft packers dangle out of them like real cocks, and it's an awesome sensation. Dildos with a flared base can be secured inside the shorts and used for sex, and there's something very reassuring and secure about the fact that your anatomy is hidden behind all that fabric. Make sure whatever you're gonna insert through the O-ring will fit!! One of my dildos was too thick and I got pretty sad about it." —VersTransMan

    Get them from Lovehoney for $36.99 (and check out all of Lovehoney's packing options).

    22. A strapless strap-on dildo vibrator that has a posable pony to really get in there as needed. Psst, it's waterproof.

    the L-shaped vibrator with a flexible end in motion

    Has 8 patterns of vibration and 12 speeds, full waterproof, comes with a lockable storage case.

    Promising review: "This toy has literally become part of mine and my girlfriend’s relationship. The vibrator is such a good way for 'bottoms' to try 'topping' out, without the hassle and sometimes embarrassment of a traditional strap-on. The individual vibrations patterns and speeds really do make this product fit for any couple. This toy is very easy to clean and charges up very quick, and lasts forever! I cannot recommend a product more than this!" —MissNC, a Bisexual Going Steady Female

    Get it from Lovehoney for $99.99.

    23. A luxurious stainless-steel dildo to help out in temperature play and reaching G-spots, P-spots, and all sorts of other pleasurable places.

    model holding a curved stainless steel dildo with two different size heads

    Promising review: "I am in love with this dildo. What should I say. Amazing curves, spheres and stainless steel makes it a great toy for anal play. I really enjoy the prostate stimulation with my stainless-steel dildo. It's one of the best toy to have for prostate massage. It's a toy worth having!" —Jasperjade19, a Gay Going Steady Male

    Get it from Lovehoney for $149.99.

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