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How To Bring Peace and Positive Energy With More Compassionate Listening

At times, other people will disappoint you. But that doesn’t mean you have to be disappointing in return. In some cases, people will frustrate you with their recklessness and irritate you with their thoughtlessness. Yet the best response is not to be even more reckless or thoughtless yourself. On the contrary, you have the opportunity to lead life and to lead others in a more positive direction. Yes, it takes strength and maturity, and yes you have it and can do it. Imagine transforming a confrontational situation into an experience of cooperation and mutual respect. Imagine being the person to do that, and how quietly satisfying it feels. Sure, it is naive to think you can resolve every conflict. But it is foolish to neglect the very real opportunities to work through differences in a peaceful and productive way. See if you can swallow your disappointment and irritation, and look instead for ways to bring positive energy to negative situations. Chances are, you’ll make the difference that will make things better..

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Profound listening or humane listening is the sort of listening that can diminish the misery of the other individual.

This is what I know without a doubt. We never, ever, truly comprehend what another is experiencing in totality - even with clear correspondence - on the grounds that attempt as we may - every individual has an alternate world view, distinctive core qualities and an interesting way they see the world. We can get nearer to comprehending or understanding others by being clear about our identity, what we esteem and what makes a difference most and by LISTENING profoundly and sympathetically with a profound yearning to learn, develop and understand.

You can call it compassionate listening or humane tuning in, you listen with only one purpose and that is helping others empty their heart. And if you remember that you are helping another person to suffer less and then even if that person says things full of wrong perceptions, full of bitterness you are still capable to continue to listen with compassion, because you know that listening like that with empathy and compassion you allow the other person to suffer less.

A wise man once said, “We must love them both, those with whom we agree, and those with whom we disagree. For both have laboured in the search of truth, and both have helped in the finding of it.”

If you want to help others to correct their perception then you should wait for another time but for the time being you have to just listen with compassion and help them to suffer less, and one hour like that can bring transformation and healing the fear or anger. The anger and the despair is born on the ground of wrong perception and we have wrong perception’s concerning ourselves and the other person and that is the foundation for conflict and war and violence.

We should be able to say it like this: “Dear Friends, dear people, I know that you suffer a lot, I know you endure a considerable measure. I have not understood enough of your difficulties and suffering. It’s not my own intention to make you suffer more, it is precisely the opposite. So please tell us about your suffering, your difficulties, I am eager to learn to understand”.

It has to start like that with loving speech and if you are honest, if you are true they will open their heart and tell us. And then we practice compassionate, deep listening and during the process of deep listening we can learn so much about our own perception and their perception and that is the best way, the only way to remove difficulties set between yourself and family members or friends, yourself and your boss, father and son, mother and daughter, yourself and your children, your best friend.

When you hurt another, you create a distinct vibration of energy that is felt in all including yourself. In the same way, when you help or love another you create a distinct vibration that is felt in all including yourself. This vibration flows through the energy that connects us all, but also know this; that as the energy flows out it always returns back to you. So what you do to others, you do to yourself.

Therefore, you must not try to take on the Compassionate Listening role in any way around an issue where your own experience is too fresh or painful. You will get hurt, and you will hurt those with whom you set out to build bridges.

If you feel in your heart that a certain person is unreachable, evil, or beyond hope, DO NOT become involved in compassionate listening work with that individual! If you are already involved and find you feel this way, excuse yourself from the situation. It is perfectly all right to feel this way, and vitally important to recognize when you do. It may mean you need to rest and come back to it later, or it may mean that the work you are called to with this particular person or issue is not compassionate listening, but something deeper.

As Paolo Freire wrote: ‘The people who appear to be responsible for the oppression are maimed by what they are doing.’ They must be rescued from the total situation.”

Psalm 152 > A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.

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