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People Share The Best Advice Their Dads Ever Gave Them

Spend your holiday sitting at the dinner table with the ones you love while Dad gives you advice on life. Happy Holidays from Dockers!

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Spencer Bergen

On making your own opportunities:

"When looking for a job, my dad suggested 'Why don't you go work for Tyra Banks? You should call her and say, "Hey, what can I do for you?"' It was pretty ridiculous advice to me at the time, but literally all of my future opportunities came from me reaching out and just asking for it. Dads know nothing and everything at the same time. Mostly nothing. (But it's still everything.)"

—Spencer B.

On what it takes to be happy:

"When I was in college and really depressed about something, I came home for a weekend. On Sunday, my dad drove me to the bus station, and we got to talking about life. He said that the only things you need to be happy are to do something you love doing in a place you like being with a person you love. At the time I was like, 'Cool, Dad. That's great. Just those things?' But as I've gotten older, I've remembered that often, and even if it's rare for all three elements to align, it kind of grounds me to remember him saying that."

—Jana P.

On being responsible:

"'Check your bank balance, Priya.'

"'Check your bank balance, Priya.'

"'Check your bank balance, Priya.'"

—Priya M.

On defending yourself:

"I used to get beat up all the time in school. Like, every day. My dad knew I couldn't defend myself because I was weak and feeble, so he encouraged me to use my sense of humor as a weapon: 'If you can make someone laugh, they're much less likely to beat the crap out of you. Always make fun of yourself, because nobody can get offended by that. And when in doubt, make a poop or fart joke. Everyone thinks poop and farts are funny, no matter where they come from or how old they are.' Turns out he was right. Poop is hilarious."

—Justin T.

Jana Pollack

On forming your own beliefs:

"When I was a kid, my hamster died, and I was all broken up about it. My parents said I should talk to the pastor at my church, so I went to the pastor, and I was like, 'Pastor Brian, will I see my dead hamster when I go to heaven?' and the stupid pastor was like, 'No. The Bible says animals don't go to heaven.' I was even more crushed, and on the drive home my dad said, 'Do you still think you'll see your hamster in heaven?' and I was like, 'Yes,' and he said, 'Then that's fine. Believe in whatever you want, just make sure you really believe it.' In hindsight, that was pretty good advice."

—John G.

On choosing friends:

"He said, 'When you grow up, make sure you have two specific kinds of friends: one that's a lawyer, and one that's a mechanic. You need to have one of each that you can trust.'"

—Kevin V.

On questioning authority:

"When I was probably 6 years old, my dad had just put me to bed and was about to leave the room when he paused and said, 'Ari, whatever you do in life, remember: Always question authority.' I asked why, and he said, 'Exactly,' then turned off the light and shut the door. It stuck with me forever.

"I can't wait to spring that on my kids."

—Ari V.

On emotions:

"My dad always said, 'Your feelings are real, but they're not necessarily true,' meaning it's OK to feel what you're feeling, but you don't have to believe the sometimes-negative thoughts associated with that emotion. (Like when you're feeling down and your worldview suddenly turns dark.) I found it very useful in life!"

—Johanna S.

And on facing the truth:

"'You don't love him, you're just bored.' That was a gem."

—Angelique D.

Happy Holidays from Dockers!