I brought it up by saying, "Hey, doc, the meds have been great. No more daily migraines and breakdowns. The only thing, however, is that I never want to have sex anymore." He assured me that if I wanted to, I could always find a new medication. However, I can honestly say I’d rather have a handle on my emotions and no migraines than go back to my horny self.
So, what do I do now? I constantly communicate with my partner, as any healthy couple should. But we experiment with my low libido. By that I mean, we try out different techniques. For a while, we would set aside the days of the weeks that we wanted to fool around. However, that's not how life works, and other things would come up. A couple of weeks would go by, and we wouldn't have sex. This bothered me a lot. I wanted to please him — and please myself.
Even after taking vitamins, scheduling time together, and all that, nothing changed. But we eventually did find something. Instead of doing the scheduled days, we decided to set a "sex quota." Odd phrasing, but stand by. We make weekly goals for work, personal, hobbies — but we also added one for sex.
One week, we agree that we want to try anal; the next, we want to try to have sex every day of the week; and so on. It's like a weekly sex challenge, and honestly? It's so much fun, and it's made me more spontaneous again. It's made me feel as if my libido has come back in its own way and on its own terms.
And in case you're wondering, I'm still dating that former coworker.