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30 Sex Tips That Absolutely Everyone Should Know About

On giving head and boning well.

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BuzzFeed Brazil asked readers on Facebook for the best sex tips that we should all know — here's what they said.

Responses have been edited for length and clarity.

1. Remember: The clitoris is sensitive...and not just to pleasure.

"Don't be frantically licking all over it like there's no tomorrow or just in any old way that pleases you. It gets sensitive down there, and it's not pleasurable at all when you overdo it. Go slow, and be gentle with it." —Ana Cicino

2. Cool it with the stiff tongues!

"Your tongue is not a penis. Oral sex has to be like a well-placed kiss: moist, unhurried, and organized. It's not just about seeing how far you can stick your stiff tongue in." —Camila Leite

3. Also, it's not taffy!

"Stop treating the hood of the clitoris and the lips like they're taffy. All that pulling, stretching, and tugging." —Terumy Reybaud

4. Stop acting like a dog.

"If you're acting like a dog lapping up water from a dish, you're probably doing something wrong." —Maria Eugênia Teixeira

5. The vagina is part of a whole person.

"Massaging and kissing the vulva (the external part of the vagina), as well as touching and caressing before beginning oral sex really helps. Don't forget the rest of the body either, especially the legs and back." —Luana Shaedler

6. She's fidgeting for a reason.

"If she's fidgeting around, don't keep hitting the same spot! Sometimes she just wants to adjust you without having to say 'more to the right' or 'more to the left.'" —Amanda Kontz

7. If she's not saying much, everything is probably good.

"When a woman is really quiet, sometimes even silent or only lightly moaning, it's almost always a good sign! Women like this to be a truly intimate moment, with no pressure and especially no rush!" —Luana Shaedler

8. "Like that" means "exactly like that," not "faster."

"Rhythm is everything! You're better off trying to keep the same rhythm than thinking that you need to samba all over the place with your tongue! Did you hear that little gasp? KEEP IT UP!" —Gabriele Bessa

9. Know when to admit defeat.

"It doesn't always work. If she pulls you up before you're finished, the mission was a bust." —Vick Gerolomo

10. Ladies, stop faking it!

"If someone goes down on you and they're doing it wrong, even with you feeding them instructions, tell them what's up! Don't feel obligated to make them feel better about themselves. Help them learn!" —Patricia Teixeira Monteiro

11. And, for the love of god, just listen to your partner!

"Women are all different! Sensations are going to feel different from woman to woman. Reading all the oral sex tips in the world won't help at all if your partner isn't in the mood or doesn't like what you're doing. Communication is the secret!" —Haylana Rucker

12. Find the road to happiness.

"Sucking the balls is essential, but then use your tongue to trace that little line between the scrotum and anus (aka the perineum). That's when he'll really lose his mind." —Valdir Pires

13. Put on a show.

"Men's pleasure is tied to what they see and hear as well, so let out a few moans as if you were tasting something truly delicious. Then throw in some eye contact, and that will really make a difference." —Fagner Macedo

14. Know about the male "G-spot."

"If you're both adventurous, and you're down for exploring your partner's anus, the male G-spot (which is actually the prostate) is about one finger-length from the entrance. To stimulate it, all you need to do is use light pressure and massage with your finger as if you were pointing up towards the penis. If you do this while sucking him too, watch out for surprise ejaculation, because he won't be able to control himself." —Fagner Macedo

15. Get generous with that tongue action.

"Your tongue is your best weapon! With the right little touches and motions in just the right places, the whole experience is much better than just an endless up and down with your mouth. That goes for both the giver and receiver." —Gabriel Bernardi

16. And be careful with the balls!

"Use a circular motion on the head of the penis, and pay attention to the balls too. But be careful! You're not trying to rip them off." —Luís Sá

17. Just as importantly: Enjoy yourself.

"If you're doing it grudgingly or solely for his pleasure, just don't do it." —Anonymous

18. And go slow.

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"If the guy's not circumcised, he's probably going to be a little (or a LOT) sensitive around the tip of his penis. Pulling back his foreskin and going to town may not be the best idea. It's best to take it slow and avoid turning the pleasure into torture." —Anonymous

19. Say what you need to say.

"Sex is about giving and receiving pleasure, so if you're not enjoying yourself, speak up! If you want to try something new, say so! Don't shame yourself into having a bad experience." —Vitória Isis Bortoluzzi

20. Don't be ashamed of your body or your hair.

"If you've got a bit of extra hair, or a bit less hair, it's not a problem. You don't need to feel ashamed of your body. It's perfect just the way it is. If I had heard that earlier, it would have saved me so much trauma." —Eliseu Cortez

22. Find the position that REALLY works for you.

"Every couple has that one great position that's the best fit for them, but you'll only find it if you practice!" —Anonymous

23. Never forget: You need to feel pleasure too.

"It's good to please your partner, but don't neglect your own pleasure! Getting is just as important as giving. Sex should feel good for everyone involved." —Paula Leonardo Santiago

24. Knowing your own body makes all the difference.

"If you don't know your own body, there's no way you can expect someone else to get familiar with it, so figure yourself out!" —Luiza Vieira

26. Sex isn't just penetration.

"There's more to sex than just penetration. Some women say that the best part is actually the foreplay." —Paula Dias da Silva

27. Don't tell someone they're bad in bed.

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"Just because you didn't have great sex with someone once doesn't mean that they're bad in bed. They just didn't have sex in a way that worked for you." —Carolina Napoleão Valverde

28. Don't force it if you're not in the mood.

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"There's no point in forcing it. Sometimes your partner will be beautiful and sexy, but if you're not in the mood, it's just not going to work. Save it for another time (or another partner)." —Anonymous


"You can see a pretty face, but you can't always see an STD. A L W A Y S use a condom." —Anonymous

30. And finally, always remember: You don't owe anyone else a satisfying sex life.

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"As a woman, I would have liked to have known about sexual freedom sooner. About sleeping with whoever I want and as many times as I want, and without the taboo of 'he has to be my boyfriend.' That attitude kept me from having so many incredible experiences! I wish someone would have told me I don't owe a satisfying sex life to anyone." —Anonymous

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This post has been translated from Portuguese and adapted from the following posts:

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