1. Sometimes, it's okay to embrace the gender-neutral urge to cry all the time.
"I want to cry. All the time" #Fleabag understands 90% of us. #PhoebeWallerBridge
In Bluets, Maggie Nelson writes, “We sometimes weep in front of a mirror not to inflame self-pity, but because we want to feel witnessed in our despair.” So, stand in front of a mirror, put some eye makeup on for maximum cinematic effect (this step is optional, of course), and ugly-cry till you don’t. Every rite of passage includes tears and do we dare disturb the universe?
2. Do not, I repeat, do not go back to your toxic friend.
3. Even when you’re filled with rage, you can still have room for ice cream.
4. There's nothing wrong with being the first one to apologise.
5. Music — Worthwhile distractions for monochromatic days.
6. Bad-mouthing your ex-bestie can’t and shouldn't be your default state of being.
7. Write it down because, “There is a place the loss must go”.
8. It's time to relish in the small joys of life. There’s a whole day outside your door, waiting to be explored.
9. Mourning is okay. Mourning is natural. Did you know that the words "deadline" and "infeasible" are synonyms?
10. Indulge in some retail therapy because, hey, you're supposed to love yourself first!
11. Pets before mates.
12. Books and you — The only love story where multiple happily-ever-afters are guaranteed.
You think your pain and heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. Books taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive. ~ James Baldwin
Are you bored in the house and in the house bored, yet refraining from logging into Netflix because your ex-bestie’s name beside yours is a painful reminder of all the movie nights you have had together? Time to pick up a BILF (Book I’d Like To Finish) from your overwhelming pile of TBR.
13. The best thing you can do is to embrace your authentic self.
14. Give it time.
15. And finally, there are always new friendships waiting for you!
think of all the people you haven’t met yet that you’re going to love and that are going to love you back
There will be baristas who’ll remember your order every morning (ah, the sweet, sweet smell of being served hot coffee). And puppies who will choose your fingers to bite on in a room full of people (you’ve to assume those are out of affection). And strangers who’ll share their umbrellas with you (never to be seen again after that one particular rainy afternoon). And friends, who will save their choice memes for you and only you (but not the last slice of pizza). You’re yet to meet them and meet them, you shall!