1. Written by: Danielle Pettee
1. Smile.
No, that does not include any version of the duck face. (You know people talk about that behind your back?) "Happiest girls are the prettiest," quoted by the amazing and fabulous Audrey Hepburn herself. She had men chasing her, adoring, admiring, and fawning over her, and she could not have been any more right. SMILE, genuinely, especially when you walk into a crowded place and you know no one. Just smile and be happy, because you could meet the man of your dreams and you never know when he will arrive. Just saying.
2. Embrace Your Natural Beauty.
Yes, we all love makeup, but you're not fooling anyone when you sleep in it and wake up in the morning looking all haggard. Fact: wearing eye makeup to bed actually makes you look much older in the morning. Let your skin breathe and be comfortable in its naked beauty. The right man will tell you you're beautiful when he wakes up next to you. I love my makeup and I'm totally #$%^ off fabulous at the beach with my red lipstick and blow dried hair, but sometimes less is more. Men can see your clumpy fake eye lashes and your foundation practically oozing off your face like a melting cream cheese iced cake! Make-up is awesome, but too much is not. A little beauty tip if you hate going fresh faced: tinted moisturizer or added self tanner into your face lotion once a day really makes a difference and leaves healthy glow!
3. Stop Talking About Marrying a Rich Guy.
Sugar Daddies exist, but not the kind you are thinking. Get a job, a good job, where you challenge yourself and you will earn your own money. With that income, you can meet a great guy who earns his own income, and maybe one day when you two get married you will be rich together. Not that there is anything wrong with having a sugar daddy, but don't enroll yourself as an employee. Also, I've dated rich men, they are boring, they have no time for you, and they will probably control your life. Does that even sound fun to you? Stop being shallow. It's 2014, no one likes shallow. Men love a strong independent woman who can buy her own things, provide her own shelter and pave her own way in this world. Buddha once said "Time and circumstances can change at any time." What if your man was out of a job, then it would be up to you to take care of him and support him through until he gets back on his feet!
4. Be Sexy.
By sexy I mean dress your age, dress for your body type and wear clothes that suit you and your personality. Every age, size and shape is sexy. There are people out there to appreciate all types of women. Let your personality show through your clothing choice. If covering up more is sexy to you, then by all means, wear it well. You don't necessarily have to choose black; Its boring, its also not a fucking color, it's so generic, and you'll just blend in to the rest of the girls. When you wear a dress and heals, STAND UP STRAIGHT! You may not notice this but you're hunching your shoulders sometimes. Stop wearing heals that you cannot walk in, you look like a hot mess. Guys don't like messes, they like beautiful women that walk and act like a lady. Yes, you can be a fantasy if you own it like a boss! OH, and if you are already sexy and you know it, then be humble about it and PLEASE say 'thank you' to every compliment you get, because you are blessed. I'm thankful everyday for being me, because tomorrow I could catch on fire.
5. Be Independent.
Don't stop hanging out with your friends, as a matter of fact STOP ditching your friends for him. He will respect you in the end. It also gives you time to miss him and vise versa. Don't make your life revolve around him either, you have plenty of other things to do that are just as cool as him. Make him wonder what your doing sometimes and send him photos of joyful experiences you have when he's not around, he will appreciate you for both. Don't rely on him all the time and its okay to go a couple days without texting or talking. Mystery is sexy, men like sexy.
6. Don't Tell Them Too Much Too Soon.
When you meet someone, be charming, witty, fun, keep it light and don't forget flirting is FUN! There is nothing wrong with flirting.... unless he's taken. Don't be a home wrecker, no one likes a home wrecker. Keep it simple! For instance, don't analyze everything he does. Ask questions, to get to know him as a person, don't pass judgment, and be genuine. For gawds sake, please try not to start picturing yourself on your wedding day and inserting his face in that mental image! Calm your shit, don't rush things. Remember to live in the moment. We know you're on this hunt to find the right man but while you're doing it, you need to always tell yourself it should happen naturally.
7. You Don't Have to Have Sex for Him to Like You.
Make him earn it. Tease him and let him tease you. That's hot. Also spend the time you are dating asking questions about sex and what you like and don't like. So when you do actually have sex, you can feel more comfortable with him and it can actually be good sex. Don't be afraid to write something sexy and charming via text to him or even something naughty. Have fun with it because the first time with someone should be special, sexy, hot, fun and WORTH IT. Once you have given it up, then follow all the other rules for him to not lose interest.
8. Have Fun.
Be spontaneous, have fun wherever you are, and live in the moment. Life is too short to be grumpy pants and have high expectations that are never met. Even when he's not with you, you should be having fun, go out and do your own thing that makes YOU happy! Invite him out with you, but if he says no, don't get upset. Offer to take him on a date. If you are being homebodies, make being hermit crab at home fun. Life is about adventure. Make your own adventure together.
9. HAVE INTEGRITY and Be Trustworthy.
Some of you definitely have no idea what this means. Well, allow me to explain... You know how you always say yes to something or offer something and never follow through? Yah, it doesn't go unnoticed. What is so scary about actually following through on plans you made? ALSO, integrity means being honest. Always be honest! If you're not open and communicative, you will not get what you want. Even if such honesty isn't sugar coated to sound warm and fuzzy, you will still earn someone's respect in the end. I'm always honest with whom I am dating. I keep it real, and their response in return is usually awesomely honest and gracious. I once told a guy it annoyed me that he called me 3 times drunk one night and that he didn't respect my space. Then I followed it with..." Do not call me today, I prefer not to rehash last nights drunken dial!" He totally respected that and apologized. WOW, the outcome sometimes can surprise you in the best way. Don't be afraid to SAY HOW YOU FEEL, follow through, be honest, and feel like you have nothing to hide.
10. Don't Snoop Through his Personal Things.
YES this means his phone messages, even if the iMessage pops up on his computer while you are using it. Even if he doesn't have anything to hide, you will find something that will drive you crazy to the point that makes you psycho. No one likes a psycho bitch.
11. Be Nice to His Friends.
If his friends don't like you, then eventually he won't like you. Don't flirt with them, but be nice to them and get to know them like they could potentially be your friends.
12. Break The Mold.
For instance: Be the first one to introduce yourself, ride a bike to the bar in heels, pay for your own drinks, buy a guy a drink, bake for your new friends, say YES to every invite and ACTUALLY show up, dress like a movie star and own it, be different, smile all the time, look people in the eye, have good conversation, DON'T look at your phone all the time, live in the moment, look stupid any time of day, own embarrassment, say "I'm sorry," listen to a stranger, and give GOOD hugs to everyone, have good punch lines, be witty, be nonjudgmental, open your mind, and love all things. ASK SOMEONE YOU LIKE OUT instead of waiting for him to ask you out.
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