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Being A Single Woman In New York In The Movies Vs In Real Life

Sex and the City lied to us.

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In the movies:

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Love is a spectacle. The guy is ALWAYS handsome and romantic. They always take the girl for a stroll in Central Park and buy them Jimmy Choos

Reality:

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If he has dogs and doesn't mind paying for an Uber (especially if he lives in Brooklyn and you live in Manhattan) once in a while, you're happy. If he buys you pizza or gives you his Seamless password, you seriously consider marrying him. Brownie points if he lives alone and doesn't have 15 roommates.

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In the movies:

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You accept the sad truth with elegance and grace. You're happy, and if one day you feel sad or alone, you go to Magnolia's for cupcakes or banana pudding. Retail therapy at Barneys also works.

Reality:

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You're a mess. You cry all the time. Before you fall asleep, when you wake up, when you talk to your friends, etc.

After the crying phase, you go crazy. You download all the dating apps to see who is single near you, because the only way to get over someone is to get under someone else, right? You even take Drake's advice says and start wearing less and going out more. The cupcake thing also applies in real life, but only of you can afford them after paying rent.

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In the movies:

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In nearly every movie there's some crazy, romantic story. They're at a bar, a beautiful woman enters the room and the hottest guy in the city (who also happens to be at that bar) turns to see her. Their gaze at each other for what seem like hours. Later, the guy obviously goes over and introduces himself, she responds with something witty and flirtatious and they live happily ever after.

The "they fell in love at first sight in the subway" story is also a great one. Unrealistic, but great nonetheless.

Reality:

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You fall in love with strangers like 100 times a day, especially if you live in Brooklyn or if you take the subway. However, you would NEVER say hi to some stranger. There are a lot of crazy people in this city, and there are certain unspoken rules that everyone has to respect, especially when riding the subway.

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They only buying designer things on Fifth Avenue.

Reality:

After you pay the rent for your closet-size apartment that lacks an actual closet, maybe you can go to H&M and buy something that's on sale.
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After you pay the rent for your closet-size apartment that lacks an actual closet, maybe you can go to H&M and buy something that's on sale.

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For some reason, they always go around in a limousine or a black Town Car. For most people a black Camry from Uber as ~fancy~ as it gets.

Reality:

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You only get around riding the subway or walking. You take an Uber if it's a special occasion or you're running late. If the person you're going out with lives outside of your borough, you think twice about going or you just cancel.

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A romantic dinner, a bottle of wine, and a horse-drawn carriage ride through Central Park, typical. If it's winter, obviously it starts to snow when he kisses you goodbye in front of your apartment on the Upper East Side with a walk-in closet.

Reality:

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Stress. Panic. Doubt.

You start to rethink every one of your decisions: Why am I doing this? I don't want a boyfriend. I'd rather be single than be with this guy. What if he kills me?

You think about canceling, but you feel bad. You don't know what to expect, so the best thing to do is to meet at a bar, that way it's more casual.

You choose a neutral location, that way he won't know where you live, because an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Going to meet some stranger hoping to have some sort of connection isn't easy, but it could be fun. If things don't work out, the good thing is that there are so many people in New York that you'll eventually you'll meet someone you like.

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In the movies:

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Passionate, and usually in a super romantic place. In the rain, with your leg lifted, etc.

Reality:

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It varies. Just like with sex, there are some people you won't have chemistry with. But then there are other kisses, kisses that make you feel like you're having an out-of-body experience. The bad thing about New York is that there are always people around, everywhere, so if you kiss someone in the street, somebody will most likely shout: "yeeeeeeaaahhh get it".

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In the movies:

Poems, flowers, chocolates, jewelry, among other things.

Reality:

You'll definitely get creative and interesting messages, but they all usually have one thing in common.
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You'll definitely get creative and interesting messages, but they all usually have one thing in common.

In the movies:

They're always attractive, successful, bohemian, and they live in a great, spacious loft in SoHo.
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They're always attractive, successful, bohemian, and they live in a great, spacious loft in SoHo.

Reality:

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First of all, there are like a thousand kinds of "artists" here. The vast majority makes "art" you won't understand, and they usually have no money because they live off said "art" that nobody buys.

You have to be careful with the artist because you can end up financing their art without wanting to, and supporting a full-grown man who does nothing but play with Photoshop and strobe lights.

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They always look perfect, everything is in slow motion, and they never embarrass themselves.

Reality:

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Your stomach drops, you get nervous, you forget how to talk, or you talk too much, you stutter, and you most likely will embarrass yourself.

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Marvelous, orgasmic, sexy, everything is beautiful.

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If you don't have chemistry with the person, you will have a very uncomfortable and awkward experience. Also, since the apartments in New York are tiny, your roommate will probably hear everything, and your neighbors too.

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Many people have the wrong idea about Times Square. Maybe it's because that famous Alfred Eisenstaedt photo that some people think Times Square is a romantic and magical place, but in reality, it is far from it.

Reality:

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No one who actually lives in New York really wants to go to Times Square. It's an area dominated by tourists, restaurant chains, and interesting characters who do what they can for money.

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You run into each other on the street or on a bridge (it's more dramatic that way), he/she gets out of a cab in the middle of traffic, because he/she realizes the mistake he/she made by leaving you. After crossing the street without getting run over by a car, he/she tells her/him something beautiful and cheesy, and seals it with a kiss in slow motion, obviously.

Reality:

New York isn't a very big city, so you'll run into your ex eventually. Of course, you'll probably run into him when you're hungover or leaving the gym, sweaty and smelly.
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New York isn't a very big city, so you'll run into your ex eventually. Of course, you'll probably run into him when you're hungover or leaving the gym, sweaty and smelly.

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Because they want to start a family, or because the love and adore each other and the movie needs a happy ending.

Reality:

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Because you want someone to cuddle this winter.

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It seems like communication is always constant, nobody disappears, nobody gets ghosted.

Reality:

You'll probably get ghosted or do some ghosting.
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You'll probably get ghosted or do some ghosting.

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Obviously, it's a movie, and the point is that the protagonists are kindred spirits that love each other and all that, so they always have chemistry and "that special connection".

Reality:

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The only connection you have is at home, with your wifi.

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