Gen Z Is Having Less Sex Than Previous Generations — Here Are The Reasons Why

    “There's a thing called performative sex versus pleasure-based sex.”

    On today's episode of BuzzFeed Daily, we broke down the top pop culture headlines AND discussed why Gen Z is having less sex than previous generations. You can listen below or scroll down to read more about the interview!

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    So let's dive right into it! Recently we talked to Buzzfeed contributor and sex therapy student Tatyannah King about Gen Z's evolving sexual politics. Here's some of what we learned:

    Buzzfeed Daily: So, it makes sense that attitudes toward sex naturally evolve. And right now, a lot of the narrative about Gen Z is that young people are having less sex than previous generations. As far as you know is there a common understanding as to why this trend is happening?

    Buzzfeed Daily: Considering that Gen Z is by far the most progressive generation when it comes to sexual and gender politics, it almost feels counterintuitive that they're having less sex. Or do you not think that these things have much to do with each other?

    Buzzfeed Daily: A recent piece in BuzzFeed News places a lot of the blame on the sex-positivity movement. A 23-year-old grad student and sex researcher said, "It's seen as potentially shallow, a repackaging of the patriarchy and not in the best interests of women, especially young women, because people associate it with casual, heterosexual sex, dominant submissive play, and being sexually active online." How would you differentiate between healthy sex positivity and sex as it has to do with this "repackaging of the patriarchy"?

    Buzzfeed Daily: I think back to my days in high school and sex ed classes and as far as my memory serves, all I learned was, "Abstinence is the only way to not get an STD or get pregnant!" with very little in the way of constructive sexual education. As someone who's studying sex therapy, do you get the sense that our sex ed system in the US has gotten any better?

    Buzzfeed Daily: Not every member of Gen Z is having less sex. TikTok user @eveculling recently posted a video that went viral — like, 30 million views and 76 thousand comments viral— about why you should have sex on the first date. According to Eve, it's "because it could help you determine if that person is sexually compatible with you." Of course, she also said that there's no right way to date and that you have to do what is best for you. So what's your opinion on her advice?

    TK: I think that advice isn't that bad, but I'd probably tweak it a little bit and say that if you don't necessarily want to have sex on the first date: Cool. But I think it's a good idea to at least talk about it. Ask people about their kinks, and maybe you can get a bit of a roadmap of how they're like in bed. So I definitely want people to wait to have sex for when they're actually comfortable because I feel like if you're not comfortable, it's just going to translate into an awkward situation. But at the same time, don't rush into it and don't necessarily have this three-date rule or 90-day rule or whatever. You know, if you're totally ready to have sex on the first date, go for it. But if you're not, I think talking about it would be a good idea. And I have noticed that advice actually a lot. People were saying, "Yeah, you've definitely got to have sex in the first date because you don't know what you're going to get yourself into." I don't necessarily think that having it on the first date or the third date is going to make too much of a difference, but as long as you're actually having that conversation outside of the bedroom, I think it'll help for when you finally get into the bedroom.

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