So let's dive right into it! Our own Stephen LaConte was back today with another edition of DM-911, sharing his advice for someone who's not onboard with their friend's gender reveal party.
"My best friend is pregnant and is planning on having a (virtual) baby shower. She wanted me to be involved in planning it, but her mom is mostly leading the planning. During one session, my friend said she wanted to include a gender reveal. I was kind of shocked to hear this because our friend group is very vocal and critical of hetero- and cisnormativity and we talk a lot about ways we can break free from reinforcing those systems. Ever since she said this, the shower decoration plans have become very gender coded (pink/blue, bow tie/hair bow, sports/princess)!! I'm torn. I don't want to actively be a part of a gender reveal, and it is actually kinda uncomfortable for me. However, I also love my friend very much and do not want to make it more of a big deal than it needs to be. Do I just deal with my discomfort and support what she wants? Or do I say something, even at the risk of causing 'drama?'"
You can see more of Stephen's advice here and here, and ask for some yourself by messaging @StephenLC on Instagram or Twitter.