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    17 Important Realizations Women Have In Their Thirties

    Thirty and goddamn thriving.

    1. You don’t need to waste time with people who are toxic.

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    If they try to cut you down, leave 'em in the dust.

    2. Learning "not to hear" other people's opinions about you is important.

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    Who cares, anyway.

    3. If you’re still single, that’s 100% A-OK.

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    More time for you.

    4. But if you’re taken, you probably know your S.O. is one lucky person.

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    More time for us.

    5. You shouldn't let the world pressure you into getting married if you’re not ready...

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    The pressure is just somebody else's needs, not yours.

    6. ...and the same goes for having children.

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    Your choice, not theirs.

    7. But if you are married, you know that wedded bliss is a real thing.

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    Plus you've got a partner in crime for life.

    8. And if you are a mama, you understand why your own mom did and said the things she did.

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    It all comes full circle.

    9. Also, you acknowledge that your mom was always right. Always will be.

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    Good thing you listened.

    10. You truly don't have to be friends with/be liked by everyone.

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    Your closest friends are friends for life for a reason.

    11. Being in your thirties is significantly more fun because of the confidence you now have in yourself.

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    And, in general, you just compare yourself less to others.

    12. No one views you as old unless you complain incessantly about feeling old.

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    People accept what you project about yourself.

    13. There’s no need to measure yourself by where you thought your 30-year-old self would be.

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    Expectations vs. reality does not need to be a thing.

    14. Focusing on your career instead of having a family is an amazing feat…

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    Yes, you deserve a medal.

    15. …and so is putting your career on hold to have a family.

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    Just as medal-worthy.

    16. Understanding what’s important to you in life, and not giving a shit about the rest.

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    Priorities, amirite?

    17. But the most life-changing realization you can have as a thirtysomething woman, is knowing that you’re happy with who you are and that no one else can tell you otherwise.

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    This is your best decade.

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