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  • Getting 3 Major Long Distance Moving Concerns On Point

    Packing can be such a headache, missing things, leaving behind important belongings, getting the right moving company, making sure the move goes through flawlessly and getting settled in the new place – all these are just some of the major concerns that might be running through your head.

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    Order Some Avocado Toast And We'll Show You Which House You Can't Afford

    Because millennials will never afford a house with all their frivolous spending.

  • Fishing Perth WA Western Wirrah At Direction Bank

    Fishing off the coast of Perth in the Indian Ocean Western Australia. We left Hillarys Boat Harbour early in the morning (sorry about the audio in the beginning was a bit of interference) and headed out to our favourite fishing spot at Direction Bank. We caught two Western Wirrah and one Western Red Scorpion Cod.

  • How Well Do You Know 18th Century Slang?

    How would you fare in 18th Century New York? Are you a calf-lolly or are you street savvy? Take this quiz to find out! (Phrases provided by Francis Spufford, author of GOLDEN HILL.)

  • Here Are Some Cool Shoes To Rock This Summer!!

    Here are some shoes to rock this summer! (or anytime) Enjoy!!

  • MCX Tips

    Market analysts advised mcx market tips, currency tips can be followed if you are unable to generate required return or perform better in market. With good knowledge and experience traders can earn good by trading in commodities.

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    Parents: What Helped You While You Were Breastfeeding?

    Tell us all the products, hacks, tips, dance moves, or... whatever you did to make breastfeeding easier.

  • How To Choose Your Engagement Ring?

    How to choose your engagement ring?

  • 10 Year Old Nails 7 RUSH Songs

    7 RUSH Song Drum Medley

  • Global Reach Stacker Market Share, Size, Growth And Forecast In 2017-2021

    About Reach Stacker Port material handling equipment is used to maintain port activity, which includes bulk material loading and unloading, packaging, and dispatching. A reach stacker is primarily used for handling intermodal cargo containers in small, medium-sized, and large terminal ports. It is a vehicle that can quickly transport containers over short distances within the port and pile them in various rows depending on its level of access.

  • 18 "Kris Aquino As _________" Memes That Will Surely Crack You Up

    Kris Aquino as a Mang Inasal crew member, anyone?

  • Global Off-Road Motorcycle Market Share, Size And Growth In 2017-2021

    Off-road motorcycles work on the same principles of other motorcycles, but are lighter in weight and have higher ground clearance with long suspensions and knobby tires. The off-road motorcycle market includes Motocross bikes, Enduro racing bikes, and other racing bikes that are strictly off-road bikes, as well as dual-sport bikes that are street legal bikes. Off-road bikes are also used for defense purpose. Radiant insights, inc. analysts forecast the global off-road motorcycle market to grow at a CAGR of 7.59% during the period 2017-2021.

  • 7 Ways To Make Visitors Fall In Love With Your Website

    7 Ways To Make Visitors Fall In Love With Your Website

  • 5 Yoga Poses To Stay Fit

    Losing weight is not just running a few miles every day. It requires a lot of dedication to achieve the goal.

  • Magnificent Rules For Investing In Stock Market

    Stock market investment is not easy for you if you don't have fundamental knowledge about stock trading. Intelligent traders always know how to manage their money and how to earn profit from share market investment.

  • 8 Times Olivia Was A Goddamn Queen In 'Scandal'

    btw this post probably has spoilers

  • Kocię Maine Coon

    mocno zastanawiam się nad jego zakupem

  • 6 Reasons To Check Out Coastal Magic's 6th Annual Reader Convention

    Here, in a handy dandy list form, are 6 reasons why avid readers should gather up the book club buddies and make the trip to Daytona Beach next February for the Coastal Magic Convention.

  • Bringing Your Recycling Knowledge To The Next Level

    You can always do the recycling yourself on a daily basis. These include understanding those little signs and numbers on your glass bottles and milk containers.

  • Top 5 Career Change Mistakes

    The beginning of your career is a unique period that contains a lot of upheavals: it indicates openness to your adult life and all the opportunities it offers. There follows a great sensation of fear in the face of the extent of possibilities. You just want to change the job, you are bored, feeling lost or unhappy and now at the crossroads of your life or you have to decide between staying in your professional field and moving on to another.

  • How Much Do You No About Sam And Colby

    This quiz will determine wether you even no who they are or wether you are going to be my BFF and no everything

  • What Race Are You From Mortal Instruments?

    Are you a shadow hunter or a downworlder?

  • Tricky Shots To Master In Golf

    Are you planning to play a game of golf and looking for some cool tricks to make you look like a pro? We’ve got you covered.

  • Confronting Your Teen’s Mistakes

    “The difference between the exact right words and the almost right words is like the difference between lightning bugs and lightning bolts.” — Mark Twain Avoiding toxic words and wrong motivations helps maintain a solid relationship while effectively confronting your teen’s mistakes. I haven’t met a teen yet who doesn’t want to know they will continue to be loved when they’ve made mistakes. Loving someone seems easy when everything is going well. It’s a quite different matter when your teen breaks your rules, and their life spins out of control. In those times, the best way to demonstrate your continual love for them is to take care in the way you confront their misbehavior, avoiding toxic words and wrong motivations. The first step is to let your teen know why you are confronting their misbehavior. It is that you love them and want to help them avoid bigger problems later in life. Demonstrate your respect for them by your demeanor, assuring them that you will move toward them in times of difficulty and struggle, not away from them. Tell them that you can’t possibly love them any more than you do, and you’ll never love them any less, not even when they are at their worst. Be mindful that your teen knows what they have done, and it’s already uncomfortable for them without adding verbal or emotional fireworks. Focus on fixing the behavior, not the person. Remember, behaviors can be changed, but people rarely do. Keep the word “you” to a minimum when talking to your teen, other than when praising them or saying positive things about their character. For instance, instead of “You broke curfew,” say, “Curfew was broken.” It seems like a little thing, but as soon as you use the word “you,” the teen feels as though they are being attacked personally. Also avoid using definitive words like “never,” and “always,” in such discussions. Statements like “You never listen to me,” or, “You always come home late,” attack their character, not the behavior. The more you attack their character, the more likely they’ll feel the need to defend themselves and their actions in return. They may even begin identifying with the behavior and work hard to live up to it, thinking “I’m just the black sheep of the family.” So make it clear that they have it within them to do better; that they are a better person than their behavior is demonstrating. Getting what you want from a discussion with your teen has nothing to do with how right you are and how wrong they are. It has everything to do with your motivation and approach. Ask yourself, “Will my approach move this discussion to a positive resolution, or away from it?” “Could my words increase our mutual respect for one another, or decrease it?” And finally, “Will my words encourage my teen to improve, or encourage them to just hide their behavior from me in the future?” So, be sure to also check your attitude and hurt feelings at the door before approaching your teen about an issue that needs to be addressed. Focus on what you are trying to accomplish, not on how you feel about the situation. Inappropriate motivations can all too easily sneak into your conversation, which will interfere with bringing about positive results. Here are inappropriate motivations to be avoided: To unload your frustration. Don’t dump on your teen, they’ll resent it. They probably already have enough frustrations of their own. To prove yourself right and your teen wrong. It is not a matter of who is right and who is wrong, it is a matter of dealing with the matter at hand, and solving the problem. To crush them into submission. This is an ungodly response to a poor choice, and sets a terrible example. It usually doesn’t work for the long-term, and will give your teen the desire to take revenge; another inappropriate response. Never threaten or demean a teenager into changing their behavior. They might appear to make the change when they are around you, but behind your back they’ll do the opposite. To change them into something or someone else. Teens don’t change based on what their parents tell them. They change when they want to and in response to the consequences or pain they experience from making a bad decision. And most kids are already uncomfortable in their own skin, so telling them that they need to change to be accepted by you only makes them more confused and uncomfortable. To threaten them. Anything more than stating that a consequence will be applied should they step over the line is just bullying them. Empty threats are even worse. Your teen will come to know you don’t really mean what you say when you don’t enforce threatened consequences. Now, here are appropriate motivations and goals to focus on as you have that talk: To be clear and concise, and make sure your teen understands your concern for them. To better understand your teen, or communicate you’d like to better understand them. To give them rest from a wearying situation — yes, their transgressions can be emotionally burdensome. To more clearly communicate your household beliefs, rules, and consequences. To solve the problem at hand and prevent it from happening again. You’ll notice that I positioned “To solve the problem” last on that list, not first. That’s because you’ll never get to really solving the problem unless you first work on the relationship. Problem-solving demands a good relationship and trust by your teen that you have their best interests at heart. Please don’t hear me say that a parent should act subservient or apologetic to a teen when they are confronting inappropriate behavior. Say what you mean when you speak, and mean what you say, but choose words that won’t cause your teen to have to defend who they are as a person, and make sure your motivations are right. I also recommend adding some levity to the discussion. It reduces the tension and allows you to focus on the issue without sounding angry or upset. And sometimes it doesn’t need to be a long drawn-out discussion. For instance, when I confront kids I usually do so with a big smile, saying something like, “Wow! You really blew it! What happened? ” Approaching it this way tends to make the teen respond, “Yeah, I guess I did.” Getting them to agree and take ownership for their mistake is a healthy first step. And asking them “what happened?” gives them an opportunity to respond and explain themselves without inferring that it was all their fault. Did you see from this example that I didn’t attack their character nor them personally for making a mistake? In fact, if anything, I told them that they did a really good job of messing up! Moreover, I set them on a path to do a really good job of not messing up again in the future, because I then applied consequences, saying, “Well, I guess you already know that means you’ll be raking a lot of pine needles this week?” (one of the traditional consequence for kids in our residential program who step over the line). “Yeah, I guess so,” they’ll respond. Then, I let the consequences do the teaching. As they rake pine needles (without being entertained by their iPod, by the way) it gives them ample time to think about their behavior and ample reason not to repeat it. After they complete the assigned consequence, we again have a chat. That’ s when I reassure them that the error is now forgotten and that it is water under the bridge; thereby restoring open communications. And I again express confidence in them that they have it within them to avoid making that mistake again. I might even offer some advice from my own mistakes in life to help them from making the same mistake again. The way that you manage confrontation is more important than you may think. How you relate to and interact with your children at such pivotal times will determine the quality of your relationship with them in the future. How you stand with them even in their times of misbehavior will determine if your children will mature into caring, loving and responsible adults. Foster care Adoption Lexington KY, Foster care Adoption Asheville Raleigh Wilmington NC, Foster care Adoption Cincinnati Ohio ,Foster care Adoption McAlester Tulsa OKC ,Foster care Adoption Harrisburg, Foster care Adoption Austin Lubbock TX , Adoption

  • Five Things To Know Before You Visit The Royal Botanical Gardens Of Sri Lanka

    Plant lovers and garden crazies welcome! Perched in the central hills of Lanka, the Royal Botanical Gardens is home to more than 4000 species of plants which attracts over 2 million visitors per year. Scroll down to see what exactly you should not miss when you visit the gardens.