This one was by far my favourite of the first three. Personal essays aren't something I normally read, but recently I've started to see the value in them. As I discovered, when you pick the right one, it can feel like the author is actually you — like there's someone else who has gone through the same problems, they're in the same headspace and they're telling you that it's all going to be okay.
Notes to Self brought up issues that I hadn't even mentioned to my bibliotherapist like whether or not to have children. With the current climate and political landscape, my decision sometimes veers very closely to, "No, I'm not going to have them." I worry that, by making this decision, I'll be missing out on something.
In one of the essays Emilie Pine talks about her own experiences of trying to have children. Of how she changed her mind from a "no", to a "yes" and then making the decision not to have children again. This time the decision wasn't because she didn't want them, but because of the effect "trying" to have children was doing to her relationship and to her mental health.
What stuck with me though was the resounding positivity of this essay and for that matter, the entire book. It's a simple message, one that I think I need to remind myself of: That it will all be okay and, even if it's not, you can come out the other side of it.