This is what it would like like if couples were honest while fighting:
It always starts with a passive aggressive comment about something totally unrelated.
After dancing around the subject for a bit, the real topic comes out.
Your S.O. is left scrambling for an excuse.
A strange sense of victory comes over you, quickly followed by a feeling of existential defeat.
Now he's changing the subject to make himself the victim.
Continuing to play the victim while hoping to appear to be the logical one.
After a few more excuses and flying emotions, it gets real.
Of course he has to bring up something from a long time ago that is somewhat similar.
After a few more explosions, it's time to get real and take some accountability.
He finally tells it like it is.
Finally, he makes an effort to end this on a positive note.
But of course, you will remember this and bring it up in a later fight.