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    32 Relationship Lessons We Learned From Harry Potter

    The most powerful magic of all.

    1. You won't always know The One when you meet them.

    2. But you might.

    3. Platonic love is real.

    4. And romantic love isn't rational.

    5. We all love imperfectly.

    6. Falling in love can be nice.

    7. But it's usually just awkward.

    8. And kind of terrible, tbh.

    Falling in love was never a central plot-line in the books, but still Our Lady J.K. never failed to get it right – especially when it came to painful parts. Love is hard, it hurts, having a crush is crushing, and loving somebody who might never love you back can change who you are as a person.

    Snape, Ron, Hermione, and Harry all taught us at different points that watching the person you want to be with be with someone else (or even just being afraid they might!) is a really terrible thing, but also that everybody goes through it. Whether you're a shy, vulnerable kid, a genius, or an international superstar, we've all had the experience of unrequited love at least once in our lives, and it doesn't make us any less awesome as individuals.

    9. And romance is the smallest piece of a much bigger puzzle, anyway.

    10. Love is about loyalty.

    11. Respect and trust.

    12. Sacrifice.

    13. Forgiveness.

    14. And good old-fashioned kindness.

    15. Happy endings aren't guaranteed.

    16. So never take a loved one for granted.

    17. Always stand up for the people you love.

    18. Everybody needs somebody.

    19. You don't always get the love you deserve.

    20. So when you do find people who love you, never let them go.

    21. Because there's nothing like the love of family.

    22. And family has nothing to do with blood.

    23. It's just as important to love yourself as it is to love others.

    You can't give anyone else your best if you don't value what makes your best worth having. Characters like Ron and Neville struggle with confidence and identity throughout the series, and it takes them years to come into their own.

    For Neville, it's realising that he's capable of leading and loving and trusting himself for that. For Ron, the fear of not being good enough for his family, for Harry, for Hermione is a crippling flaw and the main thing that actually keeps him from being good enough. When he's able to to destroy the locket and put himself and his friends above his feelings of inadequacy, he becomes the hugely brave and capable person that was always lurking behind his fear.

    24. Love is stronger than death.

    25. But it's also about accepting that things end.

    26. A little bit goes a long way.

    27. You can't force love.

    28. But it is a choice.

    29. And valuing power over love is a bad choice.

    30. Love isn't about being dependent on other people.

    Hermione loves everyone. She loves Harry and Ron so much she breaks the rules for them even when she'd rather not. She loves House Elves so much she started a campaign to free them. She loves her parents so much she erased their memories of her to save their lives.

    But Hermione can handle herself like nobody's business. Because loving those people doesn't mean she needs them. She follows her own path, becomes her own woman, speaks her own mind no matter what.

    And Neville is one of the most loving and lovable characters in the series. He's good and kind to everyone, he has a big and loyal heart. But he also never fails to do what he thinks is right and good, even when the people he loves may not like it.

    Because love doesn't make you weak or vulnerable, it makes you good, and wise, and strong.

    31. But the people who love you most can be depended on.

    32. Until the very end.